Tobi, 30 / Hunting 4 Bliss
What would your 30 something self tell your 20 something self if you could?
You are just where you need to be. Stop worrying about getting your shit together—it’s a process and this is just one small step of your journey. Be kind to yourself.
What do you wish you took more seriously in your 20’s?
Only one thing, because I was far too serious…I wish I would have taken my bachelor’s degree more seriously. I studied Spanish because I wanted to travel, and I love language, but the degree is almost completely useless to me.
What do you wish you took less seriously in your 20’s?
Literally, everything, from my love life, to myself, to what others thought of me.
Favorite memory from your 20’s?
Traveling with my husband, Matt. My favorite trip was to Uganda, where we drove a 4×4 and camped for three weeks. It was dirty, beautiful, challenging, magical…ah, it was bliss!
In your early 20’s where did you think you would be (work, live etc) by 30?
Honestly, I wasn’t sure. I was studying Spanish and my goal was to teach English abroad. At times I thought I would have a few kids and be staying at home, which seemed more realistic than the adventurous traveling life.
And where were you by 30? What did your life look like?
I feel like I got the best of both worlds. While I haven’t taught English abroad or thrived in a career, I have had the opportunity to continue my education, work, start a family, and to travel. I’m currently married to the best guy in the world, working on a Master’s degree in mental health, doing makeup artistry part time, and growing twin babies (coming in December)! Life is way better than I could’ve imagined in my early twenties.
Were you ever worried that it wouldn’t all fall into place?
As much as I try to fight the fear, I still worry a lot! I wish I didn’t, but it’s sort of in my nature. These days I mostly about finances and finishing school with twins, but somewhere inside I know that it will most definitely fall into place. The key is not trying to control every outcome and accepting the fear and uncertainty.
What is the greatest gift about being a woman in your 30’s?
I’m fairly new to my thirties, so I’m not exactly sure what the greatest gift will be. So far I would have to say that it’s the confidence, grace, and direction that I did not have going in to my twenties.
When you look out onto the horizon. What do you hope your life looks like at 40?
I hope to be healthy, grounded, and at peace with wherever I’m at. If we must get technical, I hope to have my own private counseling practice, working with various feminine issues. I want to be a good wife and mom with well-adjusted kids and a happy hubby.
What’s a quote/ saying you try to live your life by?
I’m such a quote/mantra junkie, so this is hard! I’ve narrowed it down to three.
“Follow your bliss and the Universe will open doors where there were only walls.” ~Joseph Campbell
“Where you stumble, there lies your treasure.” ~Joseph Campbell
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” ~Rumi
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