What would your 30 something self tell your 20 something self if you could?
RELAAAAAAX and stop planning! The older you become the more complicated life becomes, so enjoy your youth as much as possible and take things slowly. Take each moment as it comes, stay as mindful as possible and enjoy the power of pausing. Pausing is an incredible tool and if you slow down and take a second to just simply observe, you can actually be more effective and make healthier life choices. Relish in the present, it’s all we’ve really got to hold onto at times.
What do you wish you took more seriously in your 20’s?
My own gut instincts. In our 20’s we are being pulled in so many different directions. We are told where we should be, what we should do, where we should be headed and when all of this should happen. It makes it really hard to pay attention to our own instincts.
What do you wish you took less seriously in your 20’s?
Fear. I feel like I got caught up in my worry thoughts about the future. I wish I would have spent less time future tripping and more time staying in the present. It would have been way more peaceful.
Favorite memory from your 20’s?
Starting my own mental health clinic with my business partner. I took a huge leap of faith by starting my own business and it has really paid off. It has been the most rewarding experience yet, right next to giving birth to my son.
In your early 20’s where did you think you would be (work, live etc) by 30?
Being the insane planner that I was I definitely had some idea about where I would be by the time I was 30. I definitely pictured myself running my own wellness clinic and working a lot to get it up and running. I also pictured myself traveling around the world with an amazing partner and working towards spending our lives together forever. I was quite the romantic in my 20s.
And where were you by 30? What did your life look like?
HaHa! I manifested some of that. By the time I was 30, I was just starting my mental health clinic called Westside DBT. I had traveled some of the world: Italy, Cuba, China, and Thailand to name a few. I still have a long way to go.
Were you ever worried that it wouldn’t all fall into place?
Was I ever NOT worried? I was always worried, and to be honest I still struggle with that now. It seems like life starts throwing some major curve balls at you in your 30’s that you cannot even begin to imagine in your 20’s. I have to lean on my friends and family everyday and remember that accepting life on life’s terms is extremely helpful.
What is the greatest gift about being a woman in your 30’s?
Being a mommy, Surviving my 20’s and finally knowing who I am and what I want.
When you look out onto the horizon. What do you hope your life looks like at 40?
I of course hope that I look as good as I did at 30 ☺. I would like to see my business thriving, my son happy and healthy, and I would like to continue being surrounded by love and laughter.
What’s a quote/ saying you try to live your life by?
God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.