project 30 – marta

28 Aug

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Marta, 34   / London, United Kingdom / founder of the coffee bird

What would your 30 something self tell your 20 something self if you could?

Fuck Yeah Lifestyle

Embrace a “Fuck Yeah” approach to life.

Be ruthless with your time. It is the most valuable asset you have in your life, don’t give it away easily. You should only allow people and activities into your life that you feel “FUCK YEAH” about.

If you’re not fuck yeah about it, get rid of it. Life so much better when you are surrounded by inspiring people and activities that your “FUCK YEAH” about.

What do you wish you took more seriously in your 20’s?

Being more mindful. Listen to your body, and don’t torture it. Listen to what your heart says. It’s always right.

Its you and yourself until the day you die, be as KIND and NICE and nourish yourself.   Being crazy about being “skinny” is a waste of time. It’s all about health.

What do you wish you took less seriously in your 20’s?

Other people’s expectations. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks.

Favorite memory from your 20’s?

Snorkeling in the Caribbean through out various trips. I must have been a mermaid in a previous life.

In your early 20’s where did you think you would be (work, live etc) by 30?

I thought I would be living in Paris, married to a hot French guy with a few kids, going to my castle on the weekends.

And where were you by 30? What did your life look like?

I was a partner for the firm I was working for in London.

Were you ever worried that it wouldn’t all fall into place?

Of course, but I learned that nothing ever seems to work when you spend your energy worrying. Surrendering in the moment and trusting that you are just where you need to be in this particular moment in time kind of catapults you over this.

What is the greatest gift about being a woman in your 30’s?

I am the best version of myself today.

When you look out onto the horizon. What do you hope your life looks like at 40?

I hope to be the best version of myself at that moment in time. I do hope to surf properly by then.

What’s a quote/ saying you try to live your life by?

“Bend my heart, to your will Oh Lord. “ Prayer I learned from the Bishop of Trinidad and Tobago. You will never be happy until your on the path you weren’t meant to be.

“Freedom comes through 100% commitment” Indecision actually wastes a lot of energy and time. Only when one is 100% committed are we ever free.

“In a gentle way you can change the world”

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home decor – current office space

27 Aug

One of my goals this year is to finish decorating our loft. We bought and moved into our place shortly after getting engaged, which was the start to a truly crazy year. Planning our wedding definitely took center stage as well as got first dibs on any extra funds. Weddings have a way sucking all the energy out of other parts of your life. We have done a few things since moving in…we bought a new sectional couch for the living room, a new bookcase for the office, Brian bought three pieces of vintage furniture while I was away on my bachelorette (thankfully, I liked them. Well, the vintage theatre chairs are still growing on me) & we replaced the small marble slab on the kitchen island with a custom-built much larger wood top to accommodate more people.

Other than that we’ve done very little- we haven’t even painted the walls or hung all our art yet! It’s time to give our home a little love. Each week I will show you the current state of each room in our house, as well as inspiration photos for what I want for the space. Our home is not terribly large so the “unveiling” will move rather quick. I thought I’d start with our office space because it makes me the most crazy. It has become the room where all the crap we don’t know what to do with ends up. Doesn’t everybody have one of these rooms? In preparation for taking photos of the office for this post I was about to clean & organize (kinda like everyone does before their housekeeper comes to clean) in fear of judgement. But then I realized I would be giving a very inaccurate view of our office space. So I decided to shoot it (Brian obviously shot these photos:) just the way it is.

my current work space…

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Brian (and Franks- HA!) current work space…

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bookshelf wall…

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Things we want to do…

  •  Get rid of the couch…although I really do love certain things about it…especially the color! It has also become Franks daybed (you can pretty much guarantee you will find him cuddled up there when you get home) I’m not sure who’s going to miss it more when it goes. But we need to say goodbye to it to create more space for the desk we plan to build.
  •  Speaking of the desk we want to build…we want one long industrial looking wood/iron desk that takes up the whole wall and will serve as both of our desks. We go back on forth about what we want to have above the desk…a huge corkboard wall (could be fun, right?) Art? Shelving for storage? Any other ideas?
  •  Once my work space is moved to the large wall we will have a built-in cabinet left and half a blank wall. We go back and forth about what to do with this space. One day we hope it houses a crib (yes our future 1st child will have to share a room with an office. Problems with loft living! Luckily, not forever!) but until then what? Maybe move the bookshelf there? Maybe a fun colored reading chair?
  •  Regarding the bookshelf wall I think the bookshelf just needs to be organized better. I am convinced that we could probably donate half the books and still live a fulfilled existence. I think I might organize the remaining books by color. I always thought that that method made the shelf look like a piece of art.
  •  I’m not quite sure what to say about the wall under the large window. It’s rather offensive to the eyes, eh? Clearly, needs to be streamlined. But where will I put the vision boards!! HA.
  •  I also think the room needs a fabulous ethnic bright-colored rug. I’m pretty obsessed with ethnic rugs and think every room needs one.
  •  Lastly, I want to paint the room Boulder Grey by Ralph Lauren, a color which I’ve used before and simply love. It’s the perfect grey.

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26 Aug

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Ketut

25 Aug

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Have you seen the movie “Eat, Pray, Love”? If you have then I assume you are aware of who Ketut is, but for those of you who missed the movie (is that even possible?) he is the medicine man in Bali that reads Julia Roberts fortune, helping her transform her life after a painful divorce. I loved his character- he had such an infectious laugh and smile. I had always assumed that Ketut was an actor but discovered shortly before we left on our honeymoon that he was indeed a real medicine man in Bali. Thrilling news for a gal like me. I’m a sucker for fortune tellers & psychics….I also take people’s astrological signs pretty seriously. I know, I know, I’m such a product of growing up in LA. But I really do believe in the magic of it all. With that said I knew I would find a way to visit with Ketut while we were in Ubud. IT WAS A MUST.

Cut to our last morning in Ubud…next stop the tiny island of Nusa Lembongan off the coast of coast of Bali. The ferry that was taking us from Bali to Nusa wasn’t until 2pm so had many hours to squeeze in a few things we still wanted to see before leaving Ubud…first up a visit to Ketut and then lunch at the famous sucking-pig restaurant (Clearly, the latter was Brian’s choice).

After saying goodbye to the lovely staff (that I had somehow grown very attached to in three short days) and the gorgeous Rivermoon Villa (mark my words…I am going back to that place again) we packed Nyomen’s car up and headed to Ketut’s home. My excitement level was at an all time high. I was going to meet Ketut!

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Through my lengthy Ketut research I learned that he worked on a first come first serve basis so I made sure that we got there a 1/2 an hour after his doors opened. Sadly, this still left me in 8th place. The only highlight to being in 8th place is the fact that eight is my lucky number…obviously I took this as a very special omen.

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Brian on the other hand was not impressed with the number 8 considering that Ketut spent 1/2 an hour with every person. Yes, let’s do the math….we were going to have to wait 4 hours. HA. The loving wife part of me offered to forgo my reading with Ketut but the crazy fortune-teller obsessed part of me was pretty sure it was a pretty weak offer. Thankfully my sweet husband agreed to wait. I mean, I can’t go all the way to Bali and NOT meet Ketut. Plus Ketut is very very very old (I think over 100?) and I was rather certain that this was my one shot at hanging with him.

So we waited…..

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After four glorious hours baking in the sun, number 8 was called!

I’ve been going back and forth on what to report about my time with Ketut. Truthfully, I was expecting a tad more from the whole experience. Although, I suppose nothing lives up to ones expectations when they were as high as mine were. I was expecting some groundbreaking, life changing, epic shit to occur during our 30 minutes together. Instead he told me I was going to have three kids, warned me not to screw up my marriage with Brian (thanks for the vote of confidence, Ketut. Ha) and that I was a highly creative soul. Yes, there was a bit more than those three bullet points but you get the point. I will say that being in his presence might have been worth the four-hour wait. His energy is infectious! His whole face lights up when he laughs….and he laughs a lot! I pretty much spent 1/2 hour giggling with him. He really is a light.

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After my visit with Ketut it was time to repay Brian for the five hours of his life that he wasted for me and stop for some suckling pig! Nyomen dropped us off at the famous Ibu Oka restaurant in Ubud for lunch.

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Bali is notorious for its Babi Guling, a Balinese style whole roasted suckling pig! The entire pig is stuffed with a combination of typical spices used in Indonesian cooking including turmeric, coriander seeds, lemon grass and more. Babi Guling is unique to the island and very rare in other parts of Indonesia as the country is a predominately Muslim (consumption of pork is prohibited), whereas the majority of the population in Bali is Hindu.The dish is another of Anthony Bourdain’s favorites when in Ubud and I can see why. While I am not a huge fan of pig in general the mix of flavors was delicious.

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Next up…our crazy journey to the tiny island of Nusa Lembongan…

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24 Aug

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“a portrait of my child, once a week, every week″

Sunday afternoon Frankie…

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inspiration, gratitude & surprises

22 Aug

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Hello weekend! I’ve been waiting for you since Monday. I’m only kidding…well kinda. The truth is I see so little of Brian during the week with his crazy work schedule that I cherish the weekends with him. Although, we have been implementing a Wednesday date night to try to change that. Our weekend is going to be pretty mellow. Tonight we are going to see a movie- maybe Lucy? Has anyone seen it? Tomorrow morning I will most likely go to a yoga class- I haven’t gone to a class all week.! I’ve been naughty. Tomorrow afternoon we are meeting an old friend and her fiance for happy hour drinks. I’m really looking forward to reconnecting with her. Sunday we have absolutely nothing on the books- my favorite! I’m thinking maybe another yoga class then I might tackle a new recipe. I have been pinning vegetarian recipes on pinterest like a mad woman. I think it might be time to actually make one. What do you guys have planned for the weekend??

what inspired me this week?

the project 30 q&a’s on the blog this week- both Amber and Jadis are such interesting and inspiring women. I’m lucky they said yes to participating!

the connectivity of project 30. When I first started the project all the women answering the questions were people I personally knew. But in the last few months it has grown to include fabulous women I’ve never even met. This week one was even from the UK! Each one of these ladies has truly inspired me.

“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it”- Eckhart Tolle

“If you gotta force it, just leave it alone. Relationships, friendships, ponytails…just leave it.” – Reyna Biddy

how to avoid the comparison game 

what am I grateful for this week?

 CityDog Club- I stumbled upon this amazing dog day care near us and it is a total game changer. They even have webcams set up so you can watch your dog play! When Frank got home from his day there he went straight to bed. I can’t even remember the last time Brian and I sat through dinner without Frank obnoxiously rubbing his beloved tennis ball on our feet.

my relationship with my “little sister” Briana. I plan on sharing more about her/us next week. I think the Big Brother Big Sister program is pretty amazing. I’m so grateful I followed through with it because she has been an incredible addition to my world.

what surprised me this week?

how much I enjoy eating vegetarian. I thought I would be bored but I’m not at all! The love I now have for vegetarian burritos knows no limits.

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project 30 – jadis

21 Aug

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Jadis, 31

What would your 30 something self tell your 20 something self if you could?

In the end you’re really only competing with yourself and frankly you shouldn’t be competing with yourself at all because life is hard enough in the first place. Work at LOVING yourself and learning to forgive yourself. Self-awareness is the real root of personal power.

Also, wear bikinis now because you won’t be wearing them later.

What do you wish you took more seriously in your 20’s?

My health and fitness. After bouts with illness that doctors, nutritionists and Chinese medical practitioners couldn’t explain or sort out I eventually found a solution in naturopathy. I now take my health very seriously by focusing on fitness and nutrition. You are nothing without your health.

What do you wish you took less seriously in your 20’s?

Myself! I wish I had a fraction of time back that I spent stressing about how I would be perceived by other people in terms of my career, appearance and the things I owned. None of it matters anyway so I should have had more fun and enjoyed the journey rather than setting ridiculous markers of success that in the end no one but me cared about.

Favorite memory from your 20’s?

I have so many great memories with friends and family, but the stand out one was actually a moment on my own. It was the journey from the airport to the hostel I was staying at in London having just reduced my entire life down to one suitcase, hopped on a plane and hoped for the best. The parks seemed so green, the trains so efficient and even the graffiti seemed artfully done. It was a moment seen through eyes that were only capable of perceiving possibility.

The next months and years would prove waaaay more challenging than I anticipated but in that moment, when I was stripped of all the external accouterments and labels, I felt optimism instead of insecurity. I felt closer to my real self and knew that something big was going to happen.   That journey marked the start of things I couldn’t event imagine.

In your early 20’s where did you think you would be (work, live etc) by 30?

I never focused on a particular role or even a specific place but I had a sense of who I would be. I knew I would an authority in something marketing or advertising related and fostering a team of creative people to develop their own talents.

 And where were you by 30? What did your life look like?

I was a Director at a start-up company I helped build that worked with Celebrity talent and managed to get a global first on Facebook that broke new ground in marketing and live entertainment. After the award wins I started speaking at industry conferences globally and at Universities to share my knowledge. I believe passionately in the need to share knowledge.

I was living with my long-term partner Simon in our flat in London and about to become a British citizen. Though I didn’t know it at the time, by 31 I would set up my own business and take my career to a whole new level.

Getting on that plane was the riskiest but the best decision I could have ever made.

Were you ever worried that it wouldn’t all fall into place?

Even if I didn’t know the direction I was headed I’ve always had unwavering self-belief. In a way it’s pretty naïve to just think things will work out, but I’ve had some pretty big obstacles in my life that have always made me look inwardly for strength to overcome them.

Though I had no hand in choosing it, I also take solace in my name, Jadis, which is an old French word that roughly translates to ‘Once Upon A Time’ because it was used to start a story. The day you’re born is the start of your story and though it unfolds around you, you always remain the central figure writing your own direction.

What is the greatest gift about being a woman in your 30’s?

Confidence. I’ve always been pretty confident but now I’ve got experience under my belt and more money in the bank which means when it comes to making decisions, I’m in a position of power to ask whether something will enhance me financially, professionally, spiritually or personally. If it’s not ticking the boxes I’m not doing it. Period.

When you look out onto the horizon. What do you hope your life looks like at 40?

In the short-term I’m entering a pretty exciting phase of life planning not one, but two weddings with Simon in 2015. I’m looking forward to hopefully having children and continuing to develop my career. I’m looking forward to deepening relationships with people who have already stood the test of time. I’m also looking forward to giving more knowledge and making more time to the charities that matter to me.

I know this decade will have it’s own unique challenges but every decade does and I’m ready for it.

What’s a quote/ saying you try to live your life by?

I can’t define myself by one but here are a couple that highlight some of the guiding principles in my life:

“God can dream a bigger dream for you than you could ever dream for yourself. Success comes when you surrender to that dream—and let it lead you to the next best place.”-Oprah

“Wolves don’t lose sleep over the opinions of sheep”

“Success is more permanent when you achieve it without destroying your principals”- Walter Cronkite

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new” Socrates

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