Have you seen the movie “Eat, Pray, Love”? If you have then I assume you are aware of who Ketut is, but for those of you who missed the movie (is that even possible?) he is the medicine man in Bali that reads Julia Roberts fortune, helping her transform her life after a painful divorce. I loved his character- he had such an infectious laugh and smile. I had always assumed that Ketut was an actor but discovered shortly before we left on our honeymoon that he was indeed a real medicine man in Bali. Thrilling news for a gal like me. I’m a sucker for fortune tellers & psychics….I also take people’s astrological signs pretty seriously. I know, I know, I’m such a product of growing up in LA. But I really do believe in the magic of it all. With that said I knew I would find a way to visit with Ketut while we were in Ubud. IT WAS A MUST.
Cut to our last morning in Ubud…next stop the tiny island of Nusa Lembongan off the coast of coast of Bali. The ferry that was taking us from Bali to Nusa wasn’t until 2pm so had many hours to squeeze in a few things we still wanted to see before leaving Ubud…first up a visit to Ketut and then lunch at the famous sucking-pig restaurant (Clearly, the latter was Brian’s choice).
After saying goodbye to the lovely staff (that I had somehow grown very attached to in three short days) and the gorgeous Rivermoon Villa (mark my words…I am going back to that place again) we packed Nyomen’s car up and headed to Ketut’s home. My excitement level was at an all time high. I was going to meet Ketut!
Through my lengthy Ketut research I learned that he worked on a first come first serve basis so I made sure that we got there a 1/2 an hour after his doors opened. Sadly, this still left me in 8th place. The only highlight to being in 8th place is the fact that eight is my lucky number…obviously I took this as a very special omen.
Brian on the other hand was not impressed with the number 8 considering that Ketut spent 1/2 an hour with every person. Yes, let’s do the math….we were going to have to wait 4 hours. HA. The loving wife part of me offered to forgo my reading with Ketut but the crazy fortune-teller obsessed part of me was pretty sure it was a pretty weak offer. Thankfully my sweet husband agreed to wait. I mean, I can’t go all the way to Bali and NOT meet Ketut. Plus Ketut is very very very old (I think over 100?) and I was rather certain that this was my one shot at hanging with him.
So we waited…..
After four glorious hours baking in the sun, number 8 was called!
I’ve been going back and forth on what to report about my time with Ketut. Truthfully, I was expecting a tad more from the whole experience. Although, I suppose nothing lives up to ones expectations when they were as high as mine were. I was expecting some groundbreaking, life changing, epic shit to occur during our 30 minutes together. Instead he told me I was going to have three kids, warned me not to screw up my marriage with Brian (thanks for the vote of confidence, Ketut. Ha) and that I was a highly creative soul. Yes, there was a bit more than those three bullet points but you get the point. I will say that being in his presence might have been worth the four-hour wait. His energy is infectious! His whole face lights up when he laughs….and he laughs a lot! I pretty much spent 1/2 hour giggling with him. He really is a light.
After my visit with Ketut it was time to repay Brian for the five hours of his life that he wasted for me and stop for some suckling pig! Nyomen dropped us off at the famous Ibu Oka restaurant in Ubud for lunch.
Bali is notorious for its Babi Guling, a Balinese style whole roasted suckling pig! The entire pig is stuffed with a combination of typical spices used in Indonesian cooking including turmeric, coriander seeds, lemon grass and more. Babi Guling is unique to the island and very rare in other parts of Indonesia as the country is a predominately Muslim (consumption of pork is prohibited), whereas the majority of the population in Bali is Hindu.The dish is another of Anthony Bourdain’s favorites when in Ubud and I can see why. While I am not a huge fan of pig in general the mix of flavors was delicious.
Next up…our crazy journey to the tiny island of Nusa Lembongan…
Hello weekend! I’ve been waiting for you since Monday. I’m only kidding…well kinda. The truth is I see so little of Brian during the week with his crazy work schedule that I cherish the weekends with him. Although, we have been implementing a Wednesday date night to try to change that. Our weekend is going to be pretty mellow. Tonight we are going to see a movie- maybe Lucy? Has anyone seen it? Tomorrow morning I will most likely go to a yoga class- I haven’t gone to a class all week.! I’ve been naughty. Tomorrow afternoon we are meeting an old friend and her fiance for happy hour drinks. I’m really looking forward to reconnecting with her. Sunday we have absolutely nothing on the books- my favorite! I’m thinking maybe another yoga class then I might tackle a new recipe. I have been pinning vegetarian recipes on pinterest like a mad woman. I think it might be time to actually make one. What do you guys have planned for the weekend??
what inspired me this week?
the connectivity of project 30. When I first started the project all the women answering the questions were people I personally knew. But in the last few months it has grown to include fabulous women I’ve never even met. This week one was even from the UK! Each one of these ladies has truly inspired me.
“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it”- Eckhart Tolle
“If you gotta force it, just leave it alone. Relationships, friendships, ponytails…just leave it.” – Reyna Biddy
what am I grateful for this week?
CityDog Club- I stumbled upon this amazing dog day care near us and it is a total game changer. They even have webcams set up so you can watch your dog play! When Frank got home from his day there he went straight to bed. I can’t even remember the last time Brian and I sat through dinner without Frank obnoxiously rubbing his beloved tennis ball on our feet.
my relationship with my “little sister” Briana. I plan on sharing more about her/us next week. I think the Big Brother Big Sister program is pretty amazing. I’m so grateful I followed through with it because she has been an incredible addition to my world.
what surprised me this week?
how much I enjoy eating vegetarian. I thought I would be bored but I’m not at all! The love I now have for vegetarian burritos knows no limits.
What would your 30 something self tell your 20 something self if you could?
Live life open-hearted and don’t try to fit into a mold. Work hard, trust your instincts and judgment and dedicate way more time to your dreams and way less time to finding temporary joy or romance. The biggest mistakes I’ve made in my career and otherwise were trying too hard to be something I’m not or trying to go down a path that wasn’t true to myself. Once I realized that I can create the life that I want, I actually did it and I was actually way happier.
What do you wish you took more seriously in your 20’s?
I was more serious about one career path rather than trying out many. I interned for everyone and wanted to try everything, which was great in some ways, but detrimental in others. I see people in their 20s now who are at the top of their game because they jumped right in and made themselves an expert even though they weren’t. I wanted to learn and work my way up the hard way. I did learn a lot, but I also wasted a lot of time. I think if I just trusted my gut, I would have moved faster.
What do you wish you took less seriously in your 20’s?
The search for true love. I now believe that love finds you when YOU’RE ready. If you are half a person, you won’t ever be complete until you find your other half. Your other half isn’t another person, it’s within yourself. Once you’re whole, you can give what you have to another.
Favorite memory from your 20’s?
There are so many great moments with my best girlfriends when I was living in Florida and New York City. We were so silly, carefree, emotional, supportive, compassionate & unsure of ourselves. It was a magical rollercoaster.
In your early 20’s where did you think you would be (work, live etc) by 30?
I wanted to be in a big city and in a fast paced high-profile position in fashion or art.
And where were you by 30? What did your life look like?
By 30 I had fulfilled that wish. I was working in fashion at big magazines with big stars. It was exciting, but I realized that the fast paced fashion life was not fulfilling for me. I realized I felt more fulfilled by working on my whole life, not just my career. I actually achieved that by slowing down.
Were you ever worried that it wouldn’t all fall into place?
I think that’s always a fear, but I trust the universe to lead me to the right thing at the right time.
What is the greatest gift about being a woman in your 30’s?
Finally feeling confident in my own skin! I think in your 20s you are working out who you are and by 30 you finally get it. It was nice when I finally saw myself clearly.
When you look out onto the horizon. What do you hope your life looks like at 40?
Being a mother who can share this experience and these memories with kids. I also look forward to my next career iterations, since by then I will be an expert!
What’s a quote/ saying you try to live your life by?
Surround everything with love.
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