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project 30 – sharzad

14 Aug

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Sharzad, 31

What would your 30 something self tell your 20 something self if you could?

I would say don’t change a thing! I am not a fan of regret. Everything that happened in my 20’s both good and bad has made me who I am right this minute, and I’m very happy!

What do you wish you took more seriously in your 20’s?

MONEY! Whenever I had a nice payday I immediately wanted to spend it. The concept of saving was foreign to me. Luckily I married someone who is much better at handling his finances and has definitely taught me a thing or two.

What do you wish you took less seriously in your 20’s?

My WEIGHT! I was always preoccupied by it. Once I drove to Tijuana by myself to buy diet pills that were illegal in this country. Can we say desperate and obsessed!?! YIKES! Lol

Favorite memory from your 20’s?

There are sooooo many wonderful memories that come to mind. The two that really stick out are the day I graduated from UCLA and the day I married my hubby. Both those days were perfect and led to new exciting chapters in my life. Other than that, my 20’s were when I was able to do the most international travel and I’m so thankful I got to see the world. (But I have LOTS more to see)

And where were you by 30? What did your life look like?

30 was one of the best years of my life. I started hosting a variety of fun shows on YouTube with a dynamic group of diverse woman. I also got preggers and had the cutest little baby boy ever. I turned 31 in June, and I don’t know how I can top last year, but I’m going to try! So far 30’s are looking good.

In your early 20’s where did you think you would be (work, live etc) by 30?

In my early 20’s I honestly didn’t think much about my 30’s. I was focused on much more important things like what club I was going to that night and what I was going to wear. On a more serious note, I did know I wanted to do something fun that involved travel, people, creativity and freedom… I just wasn’t sure what it was. (Hosting shows on YouTube wasn’t really around back then!) One thing I always knew was that I wanted to stay in LA.

Were you ever worried that it wouldn’t all fall into place?

I always knew I would end up doing something faaaaabulous… but of course there were periods of time when I was stressed, unfocused, confused and frustrated….However, it was all those emotions that forced me to hustle and create my dream job.

What is the greatest gift about being a woman in your 30’s?

I’ve never appreciated being a woman more than I do now. Being able to carry my little peanut in my belly and bring him into this universe is f*cking awesome!

When you look out onto the horizon. What do you hope your life looks like at 40?

At 40 I hope my life looks like it does now with the addition of at least one more bambino, a nice house and have a few more stamps on my passport and most importantly, I hope everyone, including myself, remains happy and healthy. Of course I have hundreds of big/little goals I want to accomplish every year but it’s too many to list here!

What’s a quote/ saying you try to live your life by?

“If you fail to plan you plan to fail!” That rings true to me in so many areas of my life whether it’s my daily activities, career, weight, exercise or how I travel- I love a good plan! It keeps me on track.

connect with Sharzad – website / facebook / twitter / instagram / youtube

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project 30 – rachel

12 Aug

 

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Rachel, 33

What would your 30 something self tell your 20 something self if you could?

I used to think I would want to tell her it gets better but now that it actually has gotten better I realize I wouldn’t want her to change any of her emotionally extreme or indulgent ways. I spent a good part of my 20’s heartbroken and lovesick. Whether I was getting over a break up or deeply falling in love with someone I always felt heartbroken. In retrospect I know that I had to work through a lot of emotions and traumas. Karmically I was attracted to certain people who allowed me to work through those emotions and come to a deeper understanding of myself which ultimately allowed me to truly love myself. So I think if I were to go back and tell that innocent lovesick girl that it gets better, firstly she wouldn’t believe me and even if she did I wouldn’t want to take any of the pain away from her because it allowed me to become who I am today. So with all that said I think I would tell her to travel more and write in her journal everyday and not just when it suited her.

What do you wish you took more seriously in your 20’s?

I wish I had saved more money and learned the value of saving and not spending. It’s still something I’m working on. I also wish I had developed a more serious workout regime when my body was more willing to adapt.

What do you wish you took less seriously in your 20’s?

I might have said heartbreak at one point but now I wouldn’t give that up for anything. I did take myself and my work very seriously then and I still do now but I think it gave me the drive to accomplish what I did, so I guess I don’t have any regrets when it comes to that.

Favorite memory from your 20’s?

Walking around the streets of St. Petersburg Russia in the dead of winter while trying to get over a broken heart. I know it sounds morbid but it was a really beautiful time in my life and having that kind of really pure solitude allowed me to learn how to be my own best friend. It was an extraordinary adventure.

In your early 20’s where did you think you would be (work, live etc) by 30?

I thought I would be living in New York city happily married with 2 kids making films and playing music. I’m still doing writing, directing, acting and playing music but I’m in Los Angeles and waiting for the day when I can make a living solely from my work.

Were you ever worried that it wouldn’t all fall into place?

I still am but the worry is less angst ridden and more fueled by patience, passion and gratitude. I have learned to appreciate and love where I am even though I am still working on fulfilling all of my dreams. Some days I do feel overwhelmed that I’m not where I want to be and I have to be vigilante about correcting that and being grateful for where I am and all the dreams I have already fulfilled.

What is the greatest gift about being a woman in your 30’s?

Self love and self-knowledge. In my 20’s I had to go through a lot of heartache to understand the importance of self-love. Once I learned how to love and understand myself I no longer felt that I had to hold onto things and people that were no longer working for me or supporting my journey. The things and decisions I used to obsess over in my 20’s are now for the most part easy to include or eliminate in my life now and I’m very grateful for that clarity and wisdom.

When you look out onto the horizon. What do you hope your life looks like at 40?

By 40 I want to have a beautiful home of my dreams living with Blake (currently my fiance). We will have at least 2 children and we will both be thriving in our careers. I will be making films and TV shows as a writer, director and actress and Blake will be making his music and producing for other artists as well as thriving as a visual artist. We will have a garden where we will grow all of our produce and herbs and at night our children will walk barefoot into our garden to collect the fixings for our dinner. We will also have an incredible music studio where we will record our music. Together as a family we will travel the world and experience other cultures and languages and we will always be involved with making the world a better place through art and our humanitarian work.

What’s a quote/ saying you try to live your life by?

“In spite of everything I still believe that people are really good at heart.” – Anne Frank

The first time I ever read this quote I was living in New York city and was walking around the upper east side where I was currently living. It was Yom Hashoah (Holocaust Remembrance Day) and someone was holding up a big sign that had Anne Frank’s image featured prominently with this quote below it. I saw it and immediately burst into hysterical tears. If someone like Anne Frank could say something so profound, insightful and hopeful than we can all follow suit. I don’t believe people are born evil but they can be taught, which means that evolutionarily speaking they can be untaught. Treating all people with love, kindness and compassion is one way I can contribute daily to making this world a better place and I make it my mandate to do it everyday even if and especially when someone else is unkind to me.

 

connect with Rachel – website / twitter

her projects – Without A Home / They’re With Me

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project 30 – chantal

16 Apr

Chantal walked into my life when I was twenty. I was dating a man at the time who was friends with Chantal’s then husband. Did you follow that? Anyway in walks this opinionated, fun, fiery, beautiful Dominican woman to a dinner party one night and we immediately hit it off, becoming fast friends. I can safely say that I got into more trouble with Chantal in my 20’s than anyone else. We were both a bit wild in those days. HA. But I wouldn’t trade those memories for anything and like all lasting relationships do, we’ve stayed close through the changes the last ten years have brought. We’ve held each other’s hand through break-ups, divorce, moves, triumphs, failures, marriage, babies (she has THE cutest little boy named Sebastian) and everything in between. I adore this woman and I thank the Universe for bringing her into my world. She’s always made me feel understood and some days that’s all you need, you know?

I love her more than words can say.

Enjoy her insightful answers to the “Project 30” questions. I fell in love with this line “Yet I now find solace and comfort in the result of what is, and not what isn’t.” Amazing

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Chantal, 35

What would your 30 something self tell your 20 something self if you could?

It would tell her, not to take life so seriously.  To relax, and perhaps take life with a little more ease. To love herself first, and more. It seemed as though when I was in my 20’s I was more concerned with the exterior of things, or of life itself, how at the time it was supposed to look , or be.  I was more concerned with what people wanted of me, thought of me, what I should do, or be.  I did not have enough faith in my inner self, my inner voice, and what I thought was best for me.  Through time I realized that my exterior, the things of life, career, nor success would define what I was to become.  Nor who I am.

What do you wish you took more seriously in your 20’s?

The concern and advice of my parents, and elders.  In my 20’s I felt like a young adult that was beating to her own drum, perhaps neglecting their advice and maybe learning the rules of life the hard way.

What do you wish you took less seriously in your 20’s?

My studies. I should have dropped my books, and just traveled the world. Maybe taken a few years off to travel the globe, in search of nothing, and everything.

Favorite memory from your 20’s?

When I got the opportunity to go on a sailing trip for 2 weeks through the British Virgin Islands with a group of friends. One memory that sticks out is the afternoon I was sitting alone, on the deck of the sailboat, basking in the afternoon sun, on this beautiful day, with my headphones on, listening to Sade, and staring into the vast, serene, and endless ocean that was in front of me. Not a worry in the world, I was just happy right where I was.

In your early 20’s where did you think you would be (work, live etc ) by 30? 

I thought I would be working for the United Nations, or some other foreign government as a Foreign Service Officer, or working in a field that dealt with the economic development of 3rd world countries. I was a dreamer for sure. I thought I would be living in NY, or off in some foreign country.

And where were you by 30? What did your life look like?

By 30’ I was at peace, and felt balanced.  I was neither working for the UN, nor living overseas. After leaving my 20’s behind, I had finally found me, with a few years of soul searching, some inner and outer work, plus a heavy dose of nurturing, I was able to patch up a few of the wounds, and walk into my 30’s at peace with the world, and what was in front of me.

Were you ever worried that it wouldn’t all fall into place?

I think its human nature to worry that what we want, wish for or yearn for, will not fall into place. So yes, I worried. Yet I now find solace and comfort in the result of what is, and not what isn’t.

What is the greatest gift about being a woman in your 30’s?

Being happy with who I am now. Finding love again, and the right partner for me, to share my life with, to grow old with.  Becoming a mother, and having the privilege and gift to raise our son.

When you look out into the horizon. What do you hope your life looks like at 40?

I hope at 40 my life continues to evolve, grow, and manifest what ever I set my heart out to achieve.

What’s a quote/ saying you try to live your life by?

There is a line in William Ernest Henley’s poem Evictus, which resonates with me, and I try to live my life by, it reads,  “I am the captain of my fate, I am the master of my soul.” I think that’s it in a nutshell.

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happy 2013! my motto for the year

1 Jan

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9 Mar

20 things that have been making me happy recently

I have been in a lovely mood this week despite the fact I lost all my tax papers (an hour before my meeting with my accountant), I’ve been alone most nights (Brian has been on a crazy deadline at work and has been getting home late because of it…although this does mean I get to watch “Real Housewives” and “Bethanny Ever After” without being shamed) and ate waaaaay too much coffee frozen yogurt one night. Yes, despite all of this it’s still been a good week and here are some of the reasons why….

20 things that have been making me happy this week

1. grey mornings spent working with Rachel on our road trip…with her puppies…on a couch…in yoga clothes

2. cooking dumplings with mom mom

3. It was decided this week that Brian will have a photography show in the next few weeks with another brilliant photographer! I’m so frigging excited for him.

4. taking silly photo’s at our friends wedding

5. oh and the actual wedding! I’m a fan of a good wedding

6. breakfast with Erin of Well In LA @ Lemon moon

7. tango dancing with George (surprisingly i’m kinda looking forward to seeing him again)

8. Bethanny Ever After (am I the only one who likes this show?)

9. coconut water (my obsession with it is getting a bit out of hand)

10. my new book “Blood, Bones & Butter

11. watermelon nails (better than red and better than pink)

12. watching the sun through sleeves of trees

13. facing the tango again…i’m pretty proud of myself

14. my moms humorous ways (her random texts really get a giggle out of me)

15. browsing the travel guidebook section at the bookstore (even though I got yelled at for sitting on the bookstore floor while reading lonely planets “USA travel guide”…seriously when did this become a crime?)

16. holding hands while falling asleep (yes Brian and I actually did this the other night…before you make fun of us…try it)

17. dancing  to music (when alone)

18. blues music

19. having time for 3 “snooze” pushes (the trade-off is I don’t have time to brush my hair)

20. coffee flavored frozen yogurt (it’s a slippery slope my friends)

What’s been making you guys happy recently???

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15 Feb


“Your work is to discover your work and then with all your heart to give yourself to it.”

Buddha

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20 Jan

INSPIRATION VIDEO : PUBLISH MY WRITING

I love this woman and I love this TED talk she gave about nurturing your creativity.

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“As for discipline – it’s important, but sort of over-rated. The more important virtue for a writer, I believe, is self-forgiveness. Because your writing will always disappoint you. Your laziness will always disappoint you. You will make vows: “I’m going to write for an hour every day,” and then you won’t do it. You will think: “I suck, I’m such a failure. I’m washed-up.” Continuing to write after that heartache of disappointment doesn’t take only discipline, but also self-forgiveness (which comes from a place of kind and encouraging and motherly love). The other thing to realize is that all writers think they suck. When I was writing “Eat, Pray, Love”, I had just as a strong a mantra of THIS SUCKS ringing through my head as anyone does when they write anything. But I had a clarion moment of truth during the process of that book. One day, when I was agonizing over how utterly bad my writing felt, I realized: “That’s actually not my problem.” The point I realized was this – I never promised the universe that I would write brilliantly; I only promised the universe that I would write. So I put my head down and sweated through it, as per my vows.”

Elizabeth Gilbert