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11 Sep

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and off the invites go into the world…

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“A happy marriage is a long conversation which always seems too short.”  Andre Maurois

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9 Sep

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I woke up at four in the morning today and not because I wanted to. Sometimes I don’t even realize that i’m even stressed or overwhelmed until the quiet of the night finds me. When I wake up in the dark silence of my bed and my head won’t stop running through fears, stresses, concerns and regrets. This morning I was filled with thoughts about money stresses (ones that haven’t even happened yet but what if? You know?), wedding stresses (will this day actually go smoothly?) and work stresses (mostly fears that certain things won’t turn out the way I wish and hope) Everything felt so mind numbingly overwhelming in that moment. I could feel my breath quicken.  My brows begin to furrow. I rolled over and placed my hand on Brian’s and listened to him breathe peacefully. I realized in that moment how grateful I am to have a life partner. It’s such a gift. A few years ago I remember waking up with some of those same scary thoughts running through my head in the dark of the night and feeling so alone in it all. No matter how scary the unknown feels sometimes having a partner to hold your hand through it makes such a difference. Even if he doesn’t know he’s holding your hand in that moment. It still counts.

When I finally rolled out of bed and to my computer to tackle some emails I received two emails that made me smile. Sometimes the universe knows how to remind you everything is indeed ok. Your are safe. Things are always working behind the scenes. And to Trust. Stay in the flow.

One was from a new friend and it read…

“Hope the wedding countdown isn’t making you too crazy. Two days before my wedding I woke up to find that in my sleep I had submersed my cell phone in a cup of tea on my nightstand. I hadn’t backed it up in almost a year!!!! I knew then that it was a message to myself that I just needed to LET GO. I had all these expectations of what the week before my wedding should look & feel like and I realized that I needed to stop trying to make everything fit those ideals. I was holding the week hostage & the moment I let that go I allowed the spontaneous beauty of chaos to take me on a great adventure that was so much more real & vivid than anything I could have ever planned. It wasn’t always perfect, but it was rooted in truth & unconditional love…. and isn’t that just what marriage is all about?!!”
Seriously, it’s like she knew I needed to hear exactly that. Thank you, B.
The other was my morning wake up email from The Universe and it read…
Kate, when it comes to pursuing the life of your dreams, you can look at it like this:Best case scenario… the sun, the moon, and the stars. Worst case scenario… the sun, the moon, and the stars.Tallyho,
The Universe
Grateful for the simple reminders today.

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8 Sep

This weekend was just beyond. I am so overcome with gratitude for the lovely wedding shower that was thrown in my honor. All the beautiful ladies in my life went above and beyond showering me with love and oh so many fabulous gifts! Seriously, I could start a catering company with all of my new kitchen goods. Oh and the lingerie…I die!

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PEM DSCN0176My favorite thing about the day was the marriage advice I received from everybody written on little notes.  Thought I’d share some with you…

“Have loads of SEX”

“Everything is negotiable- there’s no issue you can’t work out”

“Play something new” – this from the sweetest little 2 1/2-year-old boy named Bodhin

“Learn from each others strengths and weaknesses”

“Everyone’s marriage is different, make yours the way you want it”

“I learned the hard way: you can either be right or you can have a relationship”

“Always have date night!”

“emotional honesty”

“You’re on the same team. Never lose sight of that. Take time to say thank you”

“Love your husband for who he is. Don’t try to change him” – said the smartest little 8-year-old girl named Georgia

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4 Sep

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My “blog every damn day” motto has been going exceptionally well, don’t you think? I swear, I just can’t catch my breath over here.  It’s not only that life has been incredibly busy (I know…who’s isn’t?) but I  feel like my head has been in the clouds with the wedding…in the best possible way. I’ve been all mushy and romantic. I’ve really been enjoying this time in my life and our relationship. I was telling my therapist the other day that I feel like I’ve fallen in love with Brian all over again recently. Maybe it’s the fact I’m about to marry the guy and all but I swear…he’s gotten even funnier, sweeter and more handsome. I’m just smitten with the guy.

I also can’t stop daydreaming about the wedding day. The moment I replay most in my head is walking down the aisle…with my papa…surrounded by all my loved ones….towards the man I love….the man that I’ve chosen to become my husband. I actually get al little choked up every time I think of it. I’m not sure I will make it down the aisle without crying. I’ve been so focused on silly wedding details for the last eight months…like what cake should we get…what shoes should I wear…what party favors…that I didn’t give much thought to the bigger picture.  Crazy, huh? But now that  most of the details have been figured out, I’m overcome with the magnitude of the day.  The way in which this moment will change the course of my life. It’s exciting. It’s meaningful. It’s big. It’s a tad overwhelming. But, mostly it just makes me smile. Marrying Brian is probably the best decision I’ve ever made. I know, I know, I’m so annoyingly mushy!

To balance out all my mushiness here’s a few recent wedding moments that were not so mushy….

– the three-hour meeting we had with our wedding planner. By hour two Brian looked like he was having an out-of-body experience. It was painful to watch.

– when our incredibly PROPER and LOVELY wedding planner asked us if we would like to hand out glow sticks to our guests during the dancing portion of the evening and Brian deadpanned…not unless we are handing out drugs as well. She looked a bit horrified. I’m still not sure if she knows he was kidding.

– When Brian dryly said, “I’m not hugely excited about the unity candle thing” quickly deflating my unity candle plans.

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“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.”
Mignon McLaughlin

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28 Aug

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I’m back from a ridiculously fun weekend with my girls celebrating my bachelorette. Seriously, I can’t remember the last time I laughed as hard as I did for four days straight. It was non-stop silliness which was exactly what I wanted. I also wanted sun but sadly we only got a few hours and the rest of the time it rained. We made those few hours count though by running straight outside in our bikinis with wine in hand. Our other activities included a reading with a psychic named Mary Morningstar, yoga with a hippy, drinking wine, watching movies, causing havoc in a Safeway market, playing in the jacuzzi, dancing, eating (sooooo much eating), cooking and laughing.

The psychic reading was our first activity of the weekend and it was the perfect way to kick it off. She told me that Brian and I are soul mates, our marriage will be a solid one (phew) and that this is our third life together- the first one he was my knight in shining armor (totally believable) and the second I was his mother (HA). Not sure I believe the whole mother one. I mean, can you picture it? I’d believe if she said he was my mother more.

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Mary Morningstar working her magic on Chantal

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champagne with an epic view

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our gorgeous pad for the weekend

the girls after a morning yoga class

the girls after a morning yoga class

Rachel handling the morning mimosas

Rachel handling the morning mimosas

Taline, Rachel and I soaking up the sun

Taline, Rachel and I soaking up the sun

A 4pm dance session

A 4pm dance session

en route to our wild night on the town. Sedona may never recover

en route to our wild night on the town. Sedona may never recover

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love this girls SO much

love these girls SO much

When I walked through the door Monday night after an exhausting journey back I was greeted by an insane amount of kisses from both Frank and Bri. I didn’t realize how much I had missed them both. Brian said I looked well rested which I found hard to believe but the more I think about it I am reinvigorated from those four days. I didn’t have a care in the world and it was exactly what I needed.

73 days!

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79- the countdown begins…

22 Aug

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For those of you who weren’t along for the 365 til 30 ride, I counted down every day leading up to my 30th birthday with a blog post. Since turning 30, I’ve gotten out of the habit of blogging every day because, well, as truly amazing as that year was, blogging every damn day is hard work. You don’t get a break. Not to mention life has just gotten crazy with all the changes in the last year- I got engaged, Bri and I bought a home, we’ve built a home, planned a wedding and gotten a puppy. With all the commotion, I’ve barely had time to sneak in a quiet bath or get to a yoga class, let alone blog every day. It’s been a whirlwind- a whirlwind of blessings, of course, but a whirlwind nonetheless.

I’m ready to slow down. We are officially 79 days away from becoming man and wife and I want to let the joy of the next few months sink in. I want to soak in every second of the celebrations ahead as well as make a point to stay present and calm. Nothing helps me more in doing this than finding the time to write. It literally forces me to stay present because I’m constantly processing my responses to stresses, triumphs, fears and blessings. Considering that I leave for my bachelorette weekend tomorrow (BEYOND excited),  I thought what better time than now to reinstate my “blog every damn day” motto since it’s the start of the celebrations leading up to the big day. Not only will it help me stay present  but I thought it would be fun to bring you all along in the day-to-day of counting down to the wedding.

Hopefully it will be a fun 79 days and not 79 days of watching me have various meltdowns.

So back to the bachelorette weekend that I’m so excited about. Tomorrow I’m heading to Sedona which is one of my favorite places to vacation. There is something truly magical about the energy there. Brian’s parents also have an amazing house surrounded by red rock mountains, so that helps too. When deciding where I wanted to go for my bachelorette weekend it was the only spot that made sense. I’m not really a Vegas and stripper kind of gal. I’m more of a relax, swim, eat and drink copious amounts of wine with her favorite woman kind of gal.

My cohorts in crime for the weekend are Taline, Chantal & Rachel. These three girls have been through so many ups and downs with me and I couldn’t love them more. There are all like sisters to me. I met Taline in 7th grade and we’ve been best  friends ever since. Sure, we’ve had a few rough patches but it would be impossible not to during twenty years of friendship and luckily those rough patches have only made me love her more and trust in our friendship. She’s an amazing human and was an easy choice for my maid of honor. I met Chantal when I was twenty and she was married to my boyfriend’s best-friend. We’ve both since left those relationships but we left them gaining each other. She’s a rock in my life. She’s stood by me through it all and I’ve enjoyed our relationship through all its different phases. I met Rachel when I was twenty-seven and rented a room in the house she was living in. We immediately hit it off and have been attached at the hip ever since. Literally attached at the hip. She’s an inspiring energy in my life. All these woman bring such joy to my life and I can’t wait to have them stand next to me on the big day.

But until then, let’s get this bachelorette weekend started! It will begin tomorrow with an early morning flight (with bloody mary’s of course) to Phoenix.

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“May your bachelorette party be so fun that you don’t notice how annoyed the rest of the bar is”

the kind of wife I want to be

14 Aug

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Many moons ago I wrote a post entitled “the kind of woman I want to be“. Funny enough it is still one of my favorite posts. I really enjoyed the exercise of putting my visions on paper. It helped solidify things for me.  Although I will admit that I still don’t put the cap back on the toothpaste or wear matching undergarments but I’m a work in progress and I like the woman I am becoming more and more every day.

Considering that marriage is on the forefront of my mind (did I mention I am getting married in 87 days?) I thought it might be a good time to write “the kind of wife I want to be” edition. I’ve been thinking a lot about what being a “wife” means. What it means to me more importantly. So here goes…

I want to remember to listen, really listen, when Brian shares his thoughts with me

I want to remember to find his idiosyncrasies endearing instead of annoying

I always want to greet him with a kiss even if I have a million other things going on

I never want to fall asleep angry with him

I want to steal away for date nights once a week

I want to always remember to keep our love of travel and adventure alive…even when we feel bogged down by responsibilities….because there is nobody I prefer traveling with more than Bri.

I want to remember to pick up his favorite mint chip ice cream…just because

I want to admire and appreciate who he is and all that he contributes to our life

I want to remain in awe of his talents

I want to remember to make time for me and my interests throughout our marriage

I want to steal away for date nights and weekend trips with my girlfriends because making time for that is important

I want to create a warm home filled with laughter and love

I want to build a family with him

I want to be the kind of wife that isn’t afraid of the tough moments, days, weeks or years

I want to remember it’s ok to have disagreements because they will only bring us to a more open and honest place

I want to remember how lucky I am to be his wife

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I would LOVE to hear your thoughts on what it means to be a “wife” as well as any tips you may want to share with me on marriage! Please comment below!

lately….

12 Aug

I feel like the days have been spinning by and I never have one thought long enough to turn it into a post. Call me crazy but I prefer when posts have a point and focus, you know? Considering my head has had neither a point or a focus lately I’m not quite sure what I expect…clearly, a miracle.

So instead of write a post with a point I’ve decided to write this.

Lately…

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Frank got sick. It started with some funny coughing and hacking noises. Then he started sneezing and then there were green boogers. As stupid as this may sound…I really didn’t know that dogs got colds. I know they get worms, stomach bugs and a million other things…but colds? I guess I never thought about it. It’s just so silly when he sneezes and needs to blow his nose. So human like. Well once I noticed that he was indeed sick I quickly and dramatically rushed him to the vets office on Friday. I’m sure making it very apparent to all the nurses and doctors at Bay Cities that I’m a first time mom.  When the doctor came in she did a thorough exam of Frank. Coming to the conclusion that he had a respiratory infection as well as a yeast infection in his ears. Please take a moment to add “yeast infection in the ears” to the list of things I didn’t know dogs got either. One hour and four hundred dollars later we wear headed home with antibiotics and ear wash. Yay.

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Saturday morning we spent hours going over sample wedding ceremonies that our wedding planner sent us in the hopes of finding ideas we wanted to pull for our own. It was an interesting few hours…we covered every emotion imaginable.  It went something like this….we ate cheeries….fought over whether or not we would write  our own vows….laughed so hard over the idea of lighting unity candles and pouring sand into a jar together….agreed on a few readings that we both want in our ceremony…Brian complained that he thought he was coming down with the flu….I randomly cried because I got all mushy over the thought of standing up there getting married. We ate some more cherries. We probably made it through about a 1/4 of it before throwing in towel for lunch.

Saturday afternoon our wedding planner came over for a 3/12 hour marathon meeting. We covered everything from the order in which our bridal party will walk down the aisle to when we will allow speeches. It was an eye-opening experience. So many details. Details. Details. Details. After she left Brian quickly curled into a ball on the couch to nap. We had big plans to hit the town that night for a birthday party but Brian really did come down with a stomach bug so instead we stayed in and watched “House Of Cards”.

It’s been pretttttty exciting around here.

around these parts…

1 Aug

I’ve had the best intentions of posting more regularly but life has been crazy. Having a puppy in a non-stop job. The minute I walk through the door I become Frank’s bitch. Probably not the way it’s supposed to go but hey, it’s the truth. I’m a first time mom and Frank has me wrapped around his paw. Every time I sit down at my computer to write Frank either tears something up and I have to chase after him, shits, whines so loud I can’t hear myself think, bites my ankle with his needle teeth or just stares at me with the most pathetic eyes.  After a few hours of this I usually give up around six and turn on “Real Housewives Of Orange County”, pour a glass of wine & play with Frank instead. Clearly, I haven’t found my groove yet. This whole puppy thing may have set Brian and I back a few years with the whole baby thing. Thanks, Frank.  Although the experience has made me realize what a strong team Bri and I will be one day with a baby. I’m also madly in love with our new little family. There really is nothing better than when the three of us are hanging out. Our recent favorite activity is cuddling on the couch while watching “House of Cards” while Frank chews his bone.

When I’m not Frank’s bitch I put on my other hat….wedding extroidinar!! My main focus this week is booking our honeymoon and planning our ceremony/vows. Although with our schedules we’ve had a hard time figuring out either- we may just end up giving each other high fives in place of vows and taking a honeymoon to Catalina. Not like there’s anything wrong with Catalina but, compared to Brazil or Madagascar it falls a bit short.

Last night Bri and I decided to get away from Frank and the wedding by going on a mini weekday date night. One that involved pizza, rose wine and fried doughnut balls with nutella. I think this may have to be a new Wednesday night routine because I’m feeling reenergize today! Happy Thursday.

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Sweet baby Jesus do I feel incredibly overwhelmed with wedding stuff  this week. Things that are giving me anxiety this week-

1- the vows. I had the bright idea we should write our own. It sounded incredibly romantic seven months ago when the wedding was a far away thing, now it just sounds plain scary. My thoughts are as follows…what if Brian writes better ones than I do? What if I forget mine? Why did I think I would be comfortable sharing my deepest feelings in front of a room of 150? Are they supposed to be funny? Are they supposed to be romantic? WTF? The pressure!!!!!

2- walking down the aisle. Why does this cause me anxiety? Well, what if I trip?? What if I get totally overwhelmed with everyone staring at me?? I mean, how terrifying to have a sea of people staring at you as you walk down the aisle to get married!! GASP.

3- my dress. You know how everyone says all brides lose weight before the big day? Well, I’m convinced I’m the one bride who would gain weight before the big day. If it were to happen to anybody I swear it would happen to me. I’m the girl who always runs into somebody they know when they run out to get coffee in their pajamas. I’m also an anxious eater. What if my dress doesn’t fit??? What happens then??? I guess I will have to keep nothing in my house the last month before the wedding other than green juices.

4- photo booth. Soooooo the other day I crunched numbers and came to the horrible conclusion we are over budget on the wedding. Sigh. Weddings are no joke. I’m fascinated how quickly they add up! When I was looking at the list of things we still needed a photo booth was one of them. Should I let this go even though I’m convinced a photo booth is necessary?? Don’t drunk people need an activity?

5- the veil. So last weekend my step-mama and I went to try on veils. I’m kinda thinking I want a veil for the ceremony. When I told Brian this, he laughed. He thought I was joking. When I told him I was being serious, he asked “Do people even wear veils anymore??” So now I’m asking you guys…Do people even wear veils anymore?? He also said if I wore one that covered my face he wouldn’t be able to stop from laughing. Sweet, huh? Even though I had absolutely no plans of covering my face with a veil, I might just do it now to mess with him.

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