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my day at the dmv

29 Sep

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Brian and I are a little over a month away from celebrating our first wedding anniversary. I cannot believe it’s been a year!? I’m not sure where the time has gone. Considering our 1st anniversary is nearing I thought it was about time I went through the tedious process of changing my last name. It’s not that I haven’t wanted to become Kate Glodney. I’ve unofficially been “Kate Glodney” since the day we got married. I was, instead, overwhelmed by all the paperwork and various government offices I would have to visit to make it official. I mean who elects to go to the DMV, right?

Lucky for lazy people like me, places like Kleinfeld exist and for a fee of fifty dollars they send you a packet in the mail with all the various government paperwork filled out for you. Well, minus sensitive info such as social security numbers. The packet also comes with very detailed step by step instructions on how to do it all. Perfect for people like me.

When I received the package in the mail….I thought…it would be pretty hard for me to F this up!…Glodney here I come!

First up, changing my name with the Social Security office. I didn’t make an appointment and instead went on a whim after a meeting with a client finished early. Let’s just say I’ve had better ideas. The wait time was 3 1/2 hours. To make matters worse my cell phone was dead and I didn’t have a book with me. Lesson learned…planning ahead can be beneficial! I was about to turn around and leave but part of me knew that if I did, there was a very good chance I wasn’t coming back.

So I waited.

Lucky for me the West LA Social Security office brings out some truly interesting people so, I survived the wait time by people watching and making up elaborate stories about their lives. I especially enjoyed the angry Russian woman who stood up every five minutes and announced to the obviously uninterested room that the wait time at this office was INSANE.

After many hours of this, my number was finally called. Once I sat down with an actual person the process was very fast and ten minutes later I was walking out of the Social Security Administration as….Kate Glodney.

WOOT!

The next stop on the name changing tour was The Department Of Motor Vehicles. This time I wised up and made an appointment before going. Equipped with my shiny new Social Security Card, our marriage license & all the finished DMV paperwork (typed rather than written, no less) I confidently walked in and got into the “appointment” line, which was two deep rather than fifty deep like the “no appointment” line. Clearly, I was on my game that day. I even managed to blow my hair out and wear a cute dress (rather than my normal jeans, t-shirt and messy hair in bun look) knowing I would be taking a new license photo that day.

This time I barely had a moment to sit down before my number was called. Winning! I walked up to the window with my handy-dandy name change folder and a big smile spread across my face. Lydia, the rather gruff lady behind the counter, dressed in a bright purple dress and wearing sparkly big earrings, that swung back and forth as she spoke, grabbed my paperwork and began working on entering my information.

To fill the time, I made small talk with the nice gentleman next to me about the heat wave we had been having in Los Angeles, all while listening to Lydia’s long nails clack against the keyboard.

Suddenly, Lydia’s nails came to a halt.

Oh, done already! I thought! Pays to be on top of things!

I turned towards Lydia and watched as her eyes narrowed at the computer screen.

Never a good sign.

I’m sorry ma’am but I can’t put your paper work through at this time.” Lydia announced

And why is that?” I asked

Well, because you have a failure to appear and a warrant out for your arrest in Georgia, ma’am.” Lydia said loudly (and a bit too loudly if you ask me)

I glanced over at the kind gentleman I was speaking to with a moment prior. His gregarious smile had faded and had been replaced with…well, judgement….with maybe a sprinkle of intrigue?

I was about to dramatically yell…”that’s impossible…I’ve never even been to Georgia!!” when suddenly it all came back to me…oh yes…I most certainly have been to Georgia. Three years ago when I was driving across the country with Rachel during my 365 til 30  year and I did in fact get a speeding ticket…in Georgia.

One in which I ignored because well, it was very expensive and I stupidly thought…when am I ever going to be driving in Georgia again???

I guess I never thought about what happens when you don’t pay speeding tickets in other states.

Fail.

I glanced back at the man next to me and then back to Lydia, deciding it was the perfect time to put my big sunglasses back on.

I leaned into the window and causally asked, “Ok, so Lydia, now what???

“Well, you’re going to have to clear this up with Georgia, Ma’am. Lucky for you this ticket only affects you in Georgia. There is nothing I can do for you here. I can’t even tell you how much you owe at this point. But I’m sorry but there is NO way you are changing your last name to Glodney today.”

Damn you, past!

When I got in the car I decided it was best to text Brian at work with the news rather than come clean about it over dinner. I mean who wants to have the “I have a warrant for my arrest in Georgia” conversation with their husband over a roast chicken, you know?

me:

So, I couldn’t change my name with the DMV today because of my failure to appear for a speeding ticket in Georgia. Kinda funny but NOT. 

brian:

Does that mean you have a warrant????

me:

Well yeah, but only in Georgia…I just need to pay the ticket for it all to get cleared. 

brian:

How much is the ticket now???

me: 

I don’t know. I have to call Georgia. Any interest in a road trip to Georgia?? 

brian:

hahahahah. no not anymore. I don’t need you being arrested. 

The text admission went well don’t you think?

Top of my to-do list this week….clear name in Georgia. Le sigh

* this post was clearly not sponsored by Kleinfeld name change *

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starting the day off right…

7 Jul

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I’ve recently decided to make some changes to my morning routine. Inspired by my friend Rachel who recently cancelled her FB account because she was tired of being a slave to it, I began to think about how social media in general plays a role in my daily life. My typical weekday morning routine would usually go something like this…Brian’s alarm goes off and he gets out of bed, makes us coffee and then brings Frank and coffee to bed for a morning snuggle. All of this is great and I wouldn’t change a thing but once Brian gets up to take a shower I would invariably find myself finishing my coffee while scrolling through Facebook, instagram & CNN (the last one isn’t bad) on my phone. It dawned on me that spending this precious early morning time focusing on everybody else’s world instead of spending it in my own head space was creating a very unfocused, drained and unsettled energy in me. I really think this early morning time before you step out into the buzz of the world is sacred. I go through phases where I have had a healthier morning routine and I always notice such a difference in my life when I do.

There are three different tools I have used in the past that have always helped me connect and get centered with myself at the start of each day. There was a period I wrote “morning pages” everyday with my coffee. The basic concept is to write three longhand, stream of consciousness pages every day, first thing in the morning, no matter what. Writing these pages requires you to be honest with yourself. It’s challenging to write every day about the things that are bothering you and what’s going on. You recognize the truth about what’s working or not working in your life.

The next is reading my “I am so happy and grateful” list each morning. This list is a list of things I want to manifest in my life which I write from the present tense every few months as if they have already happened.

“I am so happy and grateful that _________”

In doing so I let myself imagine and experience these things being a reality. Writing this list also helps me get very clear about what I want my world to look and feel like rather than just letting life happen to me.

Lastly, reading a list of affirmations every morning. My current list….

nothing can upset my peace of mind unless I allow it

I am healthy, happy and hopeful with every person I meet

Everyone who comes in contact with me today will feel that there is something good and beautiful in them

I see the benefit in everything. No obstacles just opportunities

I think only about creating value

I am just as happy about the success of others as I am about my own

A “from this moment onward…” spirit in all that I do today

I give so much time to my own improvement that I have no time to criticize others

I am too strong for fear, too kind for anger, and too happy for worry

Everything changes

I’m going to aim to do all three exercises every morning but I know that If I do at least one that I will feel the difference. So I am saying goodbye to social media in the mornings and I am going to instead spend some quiet time with my head.

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What are some of your morning routines? Tools for a better head space? I’d love to hear!

back from a dreamy weekend in Palm Springs

27 May

We’re back from a seriously fun weekend in Palm Springs celebrating our dear friend Rachel an PJ’s wedding. It was dreamy- every single detail was perfection. It’s such a joy to see people you love so happy. Today feels like my first official day back to reality, since last week was spent in a haze of jetlag, while gearing up for this wedding. So I’m spending the day getting my ducks in a row. I’m also spending the day drinking a ton of green juices (seriously, between our honeymoon and this past weekend all that we’ve done for five weeks is eat whatever and drink whatever we want…it has to stop), writing (so happy to get back to my writing- first Vietnam honeymoon post coming tomorrow morning!) and hopefully getting to a yoga class. Hope everyone had a great holiday weekend! Here’s a few snapshots from the wedding…

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happy recipe : in action

14 Mar

This week has been a good one and I am beyond grateful to feel lighter. I honestly didn’t know how off I was feeling until it lifted. Has that ever happened to any of you? You almost forget what it feels like to be in a good mood? I will say that it’s not a total fluke I’m in a better headspace- I have been working hard to stay present each day and follow my recipe for happiness. There have been moments this week where I almost skipped following through with my recipe because I thought maybe I could better use my time at the computer, doing laundry or paying bills (blah blah blah) but then I would remind myself…WHAT”S MORE IMPORTANT THEN A POSITIVE HEADSPACE?!?

Here are a few snippets of me following my happy recipe this week…

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morning walk with Frankie and my ipod

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early morning hike with one very happy pup

meditation

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working

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writing

writing at my favorite coffee shop

tv

tv time with my boys

reading

reading The Goldfinch

This weekend I begin my yoga every damn day for two weeks with Rachel. There’s a new studio opening up in our hood so we thought we should commit to going. I am very excited to get back to the mat. What do you guys have planned for the weekend??

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daily happy recipe

11 Mar

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photo by One Part Gypsy

Maybe you’ve noticed by my lack of posting recently but I’ve been in a serious funk. Usually, my funks only last a day…at most a week, but this funk has really grown some roots. I’ve been buried by it and in turn I’ve been uninspired, pessimistic and just plain UN-fun. All of which is very unlike me. BLAH. But today for no reason at all I woke up feeling like my lighter, happy, connected and grateful self again. Making everything appear rosier despite nothing having changed. Ahhhh, perspective. It got me thinking about what actions and habits bring me joy each day. I decided to write them all down so I can be conscious of what I can do each day to make the world rosier and my heart lighter despite what else may be going on around me. It’s become clear to me that I haven’t been making a point to do a lot of these things recently and I’m starting to think that is part of the problem. Because I do believe we are responsible for keeping our side of the street clean.

My Daily Happy Recipe:

waking early – I fight this habit often because I love my cozy bed but I’ve realized that when I wake up early (think 6am instead of 730am) I feel better. It gives me some much-needed quiet time to get in touch with myself and set intentions for the day.

morning pages– have you ever read the book “The Artists Way”? It’s brilliant. One of my faves actually. One of the exercises in it is writing three pages of longhand, stream of consciousness first thing in the morning. They aren’t meant to be high art. They can be about anything and everything that crosses your mind– and they are for your eyes only. I used to do them often but haven’t in months and I miss them. They provoke, clarify, comfort, cajole, prioritize and synchronize the day at hand.

meditate – nuff’ said. Again, this helps set the tone for the day. It helps center my crazy & anxious mind.

long walk with Frankie – I love our morning walks together. They bring me so much simple joy. We see a lot of the same neighbors and pups each walk and I love saying hi to everybody. I love the fresh morning air. I love watching Frank sniff every flower. I love seeing little kids heading off to school. I love the newness in the air.

jamming in my car – I’ve been on a Pandora kick recently and I’m loving my morning dance sessions in my car. It’s hard to be in a funky mood when you’re dancing and singing in traffic. Also, there is something about music that can turn any mood around and helps keep it light and playful.

working – I actually really enjoy working. As much as I complain about certain aspects of fit modeling there are parts I really love about it. I love the people I work with, being part of the creative process and contributing. I’ve also always enjoyed being independent…so financially supporting myself brings me joy.

connecting with my family and friends – making a point to call the people I love to see how they are and honestly sharing how I am in the process. There is nothing better than being reminded we are not  islands.

writing – It’s pretty simple…If I don’t write something…ANYTHING..each day I don’t feel as fulfilled. Writing is my medicine.

moving – for me this means getting to a bar method class or a yoga class each day. It makes me feel like I am taking care of myself. I also always feel happier after I move my body. Yay Endorphins!

cooking dinner– who would have thought I would have this on my daily happy list a few years ago- NOT ME! But I’ve come to love the process of making dinner each night. I watch the news while I cook…usually with Frank at my feet waiting for something to drop. Cooking has become a moving meditation for me. I feel fulfilled by having a nice dinner on the table for the man I love who happens to work much longer hours than I do.

eating healthy– for me this is light on the dairy, sugar and gluten. I just feel better physically and mentally when I do…and what’s more important than that?

connecting with Bri emotionally & physically– sometimes life gets hectic and it can feel like we are two moving ships trying to manage everything. But I find that when I really make an effort to connect with him each day I feel happier…more complete. He’s not only my lover…he’s my best friend.

watching tv shows with Bri – It probably sounds a bit silly to put tv on my happy recipe list but there’s some seriously good shit on tv these days! I also love cuddling with Bri on the couch with Frankie at our feet chewing on his bone. It’s the only time of day our little family of three comes together.

reading– I love reading a bit before bed. It can be a great book or an article in a magazine and it doesn’t matter if it’s a one page or 100…it just matters that I make the time to read.

Sleep – I’ve come to realize that I am nothing without a good nights sleep. NOTHING. Sleeping a solid & peaceful eight hours is important to my head space and overall well- being.

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So what’s your “daily happy recipe”?? Post below- I’d love to hear!

“Don’t wait around for other people to be happy for you. Any happiness you get you’ve got to make yourself.”
Alice Walker

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around these parts…

16 Jan

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the above picture has nothing to do with this post- I was just compelled to share the cuteness with you all.

I could not be happier that the weekend is almost here. It’s been a bit of a blah week for me. Not for any specific reason..my head space has just been BLAH. I think I might finally be coming down from the high of the wedding. I didn’t really have a chance to mourn that it was over because we went straight into the excitement of the holidays. It was a joyful few months and I don’t think I was prepared for it all to end. I’m not saying that life can’t be joyful after the wedding…I’m just saying I’m a little sad it’s over.

Despite my blah mood, I was able to make some progress with a few of my goals this week.

I worked on a travel essay about our trip to Nepal, which I plan on submitting as soon as I finish it (hopefully this weekend).

Brian and I finally settled on our honeymoon destinations- Bali and Vietnam here we come. I just LOVE having a trip to look forward to.

I have my very first date with my little sister, Briana set up for this Sunday. I still have no idea what to do with her…must come up with something…soon.

We’ve also made a lot of progress with our home this week- we picked paint colors, met with a furniture builder and found two killer pieces at the rose bowl flea market this last weekend- a fabulous new turkish rug and mirror for the entryway. The mirror is currently white but I plan to paint it coral this weekend!

Other than the thrilling activity of painting the mirror coral this weekend…I plan to do a bit of cooking (paleo cauliflower soup), reading (finding your own north star), writing (travel essay), organizing (the clutter that has developed in our cabinets is crazy…I was almost killed by a falling juicer the other day) and taking a few walks on the beach with my pup and husband.

Hoping that I will have a little more umpf next week!

On another note…did you see the new header on the blog?! I love it. I just die over Frank’s regal pose. Thank you, One Part Gypsy for creating such a fabulous header for me.

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23 Sep

things that have been making me happy recently…

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photo Nick Radford

things that have been making me happy recently..

meeting with our photographer at our wedding venue. I love his energy and his photos melt me

the hint of fall weather in the air. hello scarves, boots, cozy nights in and pumpkin latte’s

receiving the most thoughtful and beautiful wedding gift from one of my favorite bloggers. We’ve never even met in person but I swear I feel like I know her and I most definitely call her a friend. Is this not the cutest ring holder ever?

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solo lunch dates

my little family of three

all my favorite tv shows are coming back this week

yoga dates with Katie

getting rsvp’s like this in the mail

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watching my momma try on dresses for my wedding

fabulous wedding presents at our door each day

watching a sweet interaction between a father and his baby girl. heart melted

dinner club with some of my favorite couples.

getting to be part of the Abbott Kinney festival next weekend. COME play with us!

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