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project 30’s – jen

4 Jun

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Jen, 38

What would your 30 something self tell your 20 something self if you could?

Not to care so much about what other people thought. To keep writing. Not to worry so much about being a waitress, that it would actually come in handy later. All the skills I learned would serve me endlessly as I began to work more and more with people. That being short didn’t mean anything about who I was as a person. That I would eventually find my way. That breathing was more important than I realized. That the best was yet to come.

What do you wish you took more seriously in your 20’s? 

My writing. My heart. (not my heart health, to be clear, but rather my capacity for love. For loving myself, more specifically.)

What do you wish you took less seriously in your 20’s?

My appearance and my weight.

Favorite memory from your 20’s?

Is it bad that I can’t remember any? I really hated my 20’s. Let’s see. I went to Italy and China for the first time but that was in my early twenties. That planted the seed for me for my Italy retreats and for my desire to travel the world. My 20’s were like one long bad dream that all meshed together. I hope people reading this who may be scared of getting older find this hopeful. Ha! I am going to write an essay about this and send it to you because you have stumped me. This inspires me. And also reminds me how much I hated my 20’s.

In your early 20’s where did you think you would be (work, live etc) by 30? 

I thought I would be a writer living in NYC of course. Or in academia. I was a bit of a literary snob in my early 20’s while at NYU.

And where were you by 30? What did your life look like? 

I was working at the same restaurant that I had been working at since age 21 in West Hollywood. My life looked the same as it did at age 22 except I was older. I truly was like a walking dead person. It wasn’t until I was in my 30’s that I woke up and started paying attention which is at the crux of all my teachings. Paying attention. I paid little attention to anything in my 20’s. My life was falling apart around age 30 but thank God for that. That falling apart, as it were, allowed to start a new and create the life I wanted. I couldn’t be happier now but it definitely took that nervous breakdown I had to wake me up!

Were you ever worried that it wouldn’t all fall into place?

Um, everyday?

What is the greatest gift about being a woman man  in your 30’s? 

I married my husband just before I turned 35! I am confident in a way I never was when I was younger. I have, as cliché as it sounds, found myself. And truth be told, I was right here all along! (I just didn’t know it.)

When you look out onto the horizon. What do you hope your life looks like at 40?

That question scares me for some reason. I have never been any good at looking into the future or planning. Damn you, Kate! Maybe this will be my next essay. Okay, here goes. I hope to have a family. My book is published and I am working with Oprah. They are little dreams, I know. I hope I am happy and healthy and still have my sense of humor. Who am I kidding? It’s a year and a half away which we all know if more like a blink away so I guess I just hope by then I have learned how to break my addiction to Facbeook and twitter. I hope I have a read a few more books. I hope my laugh lines are a deeper because I earned them.

 What’s a quote/ saying you try to live your life by?

One of my own. “At the end of your life, when you ask one final “What have I done?” let your answer be “ I have done love?”

Is it corny to quote yourself? Is that allowed? I really think it all boils down to that. I look back on all those years of waitressing and realize why I was so beloved as a server even though I stank at it. It was because I loved. I made people feel seen and heard and loved. It’s really all about that, isn’t it? I am the same Jen I was then just a bit wiser and with a few more laugh lines. Back then I thought my job defined me. I thought my weight defined me. None of it did. Nothing defines us but my God, I want to be remembered by how much I loved. People remember how big your heart was not how big your butt is.

Connect with Jen – website / blog / twitter

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inspiration, gratitude and surprises

11 Jan

Inspirations, gratitude and surprises

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I feel so damn happy and full of life. I’m so aware of how lucky I am to have so much love in my life. How lucky I am not to worry about money at the moment (I have in the past and it’s exhausting).  How lucky I am to have a partner in life who really takes being my partner seriously.  How lucky I am for my health. I recently learned a family member was diagnosed with brain cancer at 58, and the news has left me speechless. The other night in yoga I found myself so overcome with gratitude that my heart felt like it was going to burst .

I’m not saying everything is perfect. I still I find myself sitting in my car or in the shower and thinking…what the fuck?…why isn’t such and such going my way? But recently rather than get bogged down by those thoughts, and take it as a sign that the universe is against me, I have found myself trustful that universe’s delay’s aren’t a bad thing. I truly believe from the bottom of my heart that everything is unfolding exactly as it should.

This weekend should be a fun one. Tonight I have a date with two lovely ladies, Katie and Melissa, whom I met on Jennifer Pastiloff’s Manifestation Retreat earlier this year. Saturday Brian and I plan to pack all day- so fun, huh? Although we will be taking a small break to skype with a possible wedding photographer. Fun! Sunday I have another girls date- a morning yoga with Rachel and Sophie. Then Brian and I are going to head over to the new house to do some measuring. We move in exactly two weeks!!

Lastly, I’ve decided to bring back “Inspiration, Gratitude & Surprise” posts every Friday. They are a really great way for me to reflect on the week.

What inspired me this week?

This post by Katie of Confessions From An Imperfect Life – Her raw honesty opens up my heart every time I read her words.

This post by Jen of Manifestation Yoga– seriously it’s a must read. It really made me think about where fear was rearing its ugly head in my life.

The new blog Valleybrink Road– it makes me want to cook!!

This article by Katie Roiphe about memoir writing

Planning out my artists dates with myself every Friday in February

Bleubird Blog

What am I grateful for this week?

my cozy flannel pajamas

The Vegan Thai restaurant down the street

Work is really busy and I am always grateful when that happens

Taline- for giving us boxes from her move for our move!

What surprised me this week?

I’ve made it ten days with no sugar, gluten, dairy or alcohol and I haven’t gone mad. Clearly, I deserve an award or something. Now for the real test- I start a three-day Pressed Juicery cleanse tomorrow.

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“I have learned that faith means trusting in advance what will only make sense in reverse”

Phillip Yancy

Ojai here I come!

19 Oct

 

 

 

 

(note: the above photo is not me! Although, I’m working on it!)

I leave for my yoga retreat with the fabulous Jennifer Pastiloff this afternoon! I’m SO excited. I choose this retreat for a few reasons-

1. I have a girl crush on Jen. I met her a few years ago when I took a yoga class from her and was immediately taken with her big, bold and joyful presence. She’s full of life. Over the last year Jen has become a dear friend of mine and I am so grateful to know her.

2. It’s a manifestation retreat! Jennifer is a firm believer in manifesting your dreams and brings that into all of her classes. Let the manifesting begin!

3. I love Ojai

4. It seems like it will be a fun weekend. The itinerary made me smile. There is wine tasting tonight, a dance party on Saturday night and a karaoke yoga class!

I’ll be back next week with stories and pictures.

What are you guys up to this weekend??

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“You get to decide as many times as you like just who you are. Moment to moment. Breath to breath.” – Jennifer Pastiloff

Don’t let the door hit you on the way out summer.

5 Sep

In case you didn’t gather from the title of this blog, post summer isn’t my favorite season. This admission probably just garnered me some hate mail, but it’s the truth. When I told my mom and Brian my feelings about summer, they both looked at me as if I had just said something personally offensive to them. I guess people feel pretty strongly about summer. I’m not saying summer is all bad. I, too, enjoy long days, afternoon BBQ’s and the beach, but I find that I get tired of it all rather quickly and then I’m just hot…hot, drained and unfocused.

I much prefer the fall and winter months. I love fog. I love rain. I love bundling up in cozy sweaters. I love spending grey afternoons writing. I love the holidays. I love wearing boots. I love wearing leather jackets and scarves. I love crisp air. I love Christmas lights. I love fall movies. I love pumpkin spice lattes and gingerbread cookies. I love all things cozy. I do cozy really well. I also find that I feel more creative and alive in the fall and winter months and, well, I would welcome that feeling right about now.

While I know it’s not officially fall just yet, I have decided that now that it’s September, I’m going to act like it is. I’ve picked out soup recipes to make, changed my closet over to sweaters and boots, painted my nails grey, my toes blood-red and I even…dyed my hair brown! For some reason that felt like the biggest F-U to summer.

Kate McClafferty has brown hair now, Summer!

Not only do I love fall and winter but they are shaping up to be a pretty fun travel filled few months. We are heading to North Carolina at the end of September with Brian’s family for a wedding. While I have never met the people getting married, I do love a good wedding, enjoy traveling with Brian’s parents and I’ve never been to North Carolina before! Win, win, win. Then in October, I head to Ojai for a yoga retreat with my favorite yoga teacher and sweet friend Jennifer Pastiloff. Her “manifestation retreats” are known to be life-changing, amazing and FUN. I mean there is even going to be Karaoke yoga! Oh and wine. So again this is a win. Then, on November 2nd, Brian and I take off on our adventure to Nepal…with a stop in Hong Kong first! Hong Kong was a recent addition and I am excited about it. We have to stop there anyway on a layover and have decided to make a trip out of it. Why land in Hong Kong, and not see it right?? When we get back from our trip,(if I survive the 10 day trek) the craziness of the holidays begin- my absolute favorite time of year! Then, somehow, it will be 2013? WHAAAAAT?

Are you guys as excited for the change of seasons as I am???

Signed,

your brown-haired blogger friend Kate

zeeee list is done!

25 Jul

I’ve certainly taken my sweet ass time deciding on what my new goals for the year will be, haven’t I? In my defense, I found it extremely hard to choose them this time around, maybe because I now know how much effort it takes to make them a reality and I want to choose them carefully. I also really want to be thoughtful about what I want to accomplish this year- my first year as a thirty year old. I want to pick goals that feel like the organic next step for me in my career, relationships and life.

My long time readers may notice that a few of my goals have been carried over from last year. Why? Well, because I haven’t accomplished them yet and I still want to!

Let the fun begin! Here goes…

 Volunteer as a big sister

I decided that when I volunteer this year I want to work with children. I also now know, after last years volunteer work at PATH (People Assisting The Homeless) that I prefer working on a one on one basis. Armed with those two pieces of information, I settled on volunteering as a big sister. I am realllllly looking forward to this experience.

Overseas trip with Brian

Brian and I both LOVE to travel (Thank God because I honestly don’t know if I could be with somebody who didn’t love to travel too) The last big trip we took together was to Nicaragua in 2011 and it was amazing experience. Well, other than the stomach bug we both got, but hey, it only brought us closer. We have both been visualizing another trip somewhere foreign and are on a mission to accomplish it this year. Our top choice would be a trip to Thailand and Cambodia but we would pretty much go anywhere for the right deal as long is it was out of the country and neither of us had been before.

Nicaragua April 2011

Art

I have always been a fan of the book “The Artists Way” (side note- you must read it if you haven’t. Even if you don’t consider yourself an artist it’s still inspiring) One of the tenets that I love most in the book is the idea of taking yourself on artists dates once a week. What’s an artist date? Anything that brings you inspiration and makes you feel alive- a trip to the museum by yourself, a walk in a new neighborhood, painting classes, pottery classes, photo projects, spend the day watching a bunch of old films, go somewhere you haven’t been since you were a child, take yourself on a picnic in the park, finger paint, garden….you see where I am going with this right? I got to thinking about how long it’s been since I have made time for such things in my life on a regular basis…too long. So this year I want to get back into carving out the time to take myself on a date once a week.

New living space

We really need to move from our sweet 1 bedroom home into something different. It makes us both sad because we LOVE our little place by the beach (morning walks on the sand are hard to beat!) but we really want a bigger space, a yard, an updated kitchen and I personally want a bigger closet- my shoes are cramped!

French Bulldog

Frank! I’m coming for you!

Ballet classes

When I was a little girl, I danced ballet for 10 years and I found such joy in it. The other day I got to thinking..why can’t I take ballet again at 30? Clearly, I’m not trying to become a professional dancer or anything but there must be classes for a girl to have a little fun in, right? So what it’s been twelve years (oy) since I put my point shoes on! Like riding a bike, right?!

Publish my writing

This is a carry over from last year. I. Still. Want. To. Accomplish. This. Goal…very badly. Onward!

Yoga retreat

Considering I am a yoga nut, I can’t believe that I have never been on a retreat. This year that is going to change! I signed up for Jennifer Pastiloff’s Manifestation Yoga Retreat in Ojai, CA in October. If you have read my blog before than you know that Jennifer is not only one of my favorite yoga teachers, she’s also a dear friend. Her retreats are known to be beyond amazing and I am so excited! I also get to sleep in a yurt with a bunch of other people….so there’s that to be excited about too.

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11 Nov

INSPIRATION, GRATITUDE & SURPRISES

239! I cannot believe it has already been a little over 4 months since starting 365 til 30. I actually got a little sad when I wrote 239…I don’t want this year to end!

Brian and I are taking a road-trip this weekend, up to San Luis Obispo for a mini reuinon with his closest friends from college. Considering I’ve met them all before (and actually really like them) I am excited about this getaway. What should be interesting, though, is the fact that two of the three other couples just had babies. Meaning, we are headed into Baby Central. Why should this be interesting? Well, because I wouldn’t say Brian is a huge baby person. It’s not like he is mean to babies or anything. He just doesn’t get why people think babies are so cool. I guess most men don’t unless the baby is theirs. When I “ooooh” and “aaaaah” at cute babies on the street he looks at me as if he’s thinking…are we looking at the same thing?

So for personal enjoyment I have three goals this weekend.

1. Get Brian to hold a baby

2. Take a picture of him holding a baby.

3. Post awkward baby holding pictures on blog for everyone to enjoy

 -What Inspired me this week?-

Brian’s photography!  Not only is Brian a brilliant Urban Designer but he also happens to be a brilliant photographer and his new site went live today! (Can you tell I am a fan?) Click HERE to see it!

My new book “Mennonite In A Little Black Dress”. It’s totally cracking me up! I can’t remember the last time I laughed out loud while reading.

Planning our next camping trip…in December. HA

-What am I grateful for this week?-

Being asked to do a guest post for Jennifer who happens to be one of my favorite bloggers. Click HERE to view my post!

Trusting my instincts

That I didn’t kill anybody with my roast chicken meal

-What surprised me this week?

For once nothing! Phew. Maybe the big guy in the sky knew I was a bit overwhelmed from all the surprises last week and gave me a break this week.

High five God!

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This quote is hysterical-

“Never tell your problems to anyone…20% don’t care and the other 80% are glad you have them.

– Lou Holtz

330

12 Aug

INSPIRATION, GRATITUDE & SURPRISES

WEEK 5

-What inspired me this week?-

Planning the cross-country road trip

Coffee date with Joey

“Committed” by Elizabeth Gilbert

The music of Beirut

Grey mornings by the beach

-What am I grateful for this week?-

Pamela & Taline (these two woman could rule the world)

Getting accepted at Tassajara

 Laughter

Sunday cuddling with B

Butter nail polish color  “Jaffa”

Green Tea

Jennifer of Manifestation Yoga, Danielle of Zuddha Girls, Rachel of One Part Gypsy & Lynzie of Small Time Cook for sharing my blog! So very sweet of you all!

-What surprised me this week?-

That somebody in Ottawa, Canada tweeted about my blog- I didn’t pay her nor do I know her! LOVE

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“There is more to life than increasing its speed.
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Mahatma Ghandi