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project 30 – erin

5 Feb

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Erin, 33  / Erin Joy Henry 

What would your 30 something self tell your 20 something self if you could?

You are good enough. You are not your career, your bank account, your weight or your ex-boyfriends. Light up the room when you walk in, even if it makes others uncomfortable. I forgive you for being so hard on yourself. Start a self-care regimen, practice yoga and kindness and surround yourself with positive people. If there is too much drama in your life, take responsibility, and ask yourself how you are contributing to it and what you can do to change it. Save ten percent of every paycheck. Build strong friendships with other women, and lift each other up. Soul search until your heart is content.

What do you wish you took more seriously in your 20’s?

The luxury of time. I lived by myself and had a flexible schedule. I ask myself now, what was I doing with all of that time? I could have gotten so many more things done! I could have taken so many naps! Now that I have a baby, time is so precious, but so is he.

What do you wish you took less seriously in your 20’s?

The opinions of people who didn’t have my best interest in mind. Those people naturally fade from our peripheral vision anyway. Why would I have cared what they thought?

Favorite memory from your 20’s?

Heading off to India with less than two weeks notice with my friend, Signe, and a group of meditators, to stay for two weeks at an ashram at the foothills of the Himalayas. It was a life changing experience, and I went back by myself the next year. If you are ever called to India( or anywhere) find a way to go. It will never be convenient or the right time, but these are the memories that shape the rest of our lives, and these deep pulls on our heartstrings to visit places are never an accident.

In your early 20’s where did you think you would be (work, live etc) by 30?

Good question! I was never someone who planned out my life like that. I never had the wedding planned, the career completely sorted or even the place I would be living, though Southern California was always in the back of my mind. I thought I would be on to another career beyond modeling, which is what I had done since the age of 15, and maybe settled down a little, but 30 seemed SO far away!

And where were you by 30? What did your life look like?

I turned 30 while living as a single person in New York City. I had a great career as a model, a cute little apartment, I was writing for small publication and forming some life changing female friendships I am so grateful for 30 still seemed very young. I dated often, though nobody was promising as far as something long-term was concerned. I was happy, but knew I was coming to the end of a chapter. I started longing for more space, clean air and some trees. I also was ready for a real relationship, as I had been single for several years. I started planting the seeds to move to California, though I had no good reason! I just knew that’s where I was supposed to be. I finally made it happen about six months later and went back to school at the same time. I had no idea what I was doing leaving my career in New York, but I had faith it would work out. I walked into the classroom and spotted my now partner of three years, Alex, who is also the father of my fifteen month old son. It was pretty much love at first sight. Things got very stressful for a while, moving my life across the country, but it was obviously the best decision, and I”m so glad I listened to that voice again.

Were you ever worried that it wouldn’t all fall into place?

Are you kidding? YES! I was always a person that worried even when things were great, that the other shoe was going to drop and I needed to be prepared for the rainy day. I was a big worrier! It wasn’t until I learned how to meditate, and breathe my way through whatever feeling I was in, that it got better. The thing is, there will always be ups and downs, that’s just the way life is. I learned for me, if I can just stay as present as I can in any moment, I will get through whatever life throws my way. I’ve gotten this far, so why wouldn’t I? Knowing this, I can put more of my energy into the positive things in my life, and be grateful, especially when things are good, rather than taking up space in my mind worrying what may go wrong. It’s still something I work at. Just after my son was born, I worried I would never work again, and another career would never fall into place for me. That was such crazy thinking. I tried my best to be present as a new mom, and enjoy the time I was lucky enough to have to stay home. Months went by, but slowly my old modeling clients started calling again, and the nutrition business I have been working on for years finally came to fruition. I still can’t believe I worried things wouldn’t fall into place. There’s a saying I love- “spirit meets us at our point of action,” meaning, keep plugging along and doing the work, and things will align, but maybe not how or when we thought they would.

What is the greatest gift about being a woman in your 30’s?

The things that once seemed so hard, are easier. That comes with self-confidence and self-love, that at least I didn’t have so much of in my 20’s. I think in our 30’s we have a much clearer idea of who we are and what we want in life, so the path to get there isn’t so rocky.

When you look out onto the horizon. What do you hope your life looks like at 40?

I hope I have a healthy family. I would like to have more children and some dogs, and live in a beautiful place with clean air and a big yard. It will probably be more North of Los Angeles, but I”m not sure where that is yet. I hope to continue working with people on their health goals, working in a career I love. I hope to have really good friends, and be close with my family and my partner Alex. I hope to travel often, and introduce my children to other cultures. I I hope to have financial freedom. I hope I”m still learning, reading books I never though I”d get to, and practicing yoga I never believed I could do. I hope I”m a role model, and that I worry less, and make others feel good about themselves. It’s only seven years away, but forty still seems like an eternity away!

What’s a quote/ saying you try to live your life by?

I am not religious, and if you aren’t either, you can replace the word God with Universe, Spirit or whatever fits for you, but I love this one.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. – Marianne Williamson

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project 30 – erica

8 Jan

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Erica, 34 / from The Simple Chic Brunette 

What would your 30 something self tell your 20 something self if you could?

I would tell myself to enjoy life (every minute of it) go out with friends more often and be more spontaneous. I would also tell myself to travel travel travel even if it’s just to another city 2 hours away or another state. Get out there and explore the world.

What do you wish you took more seriously in your 20’s?

Saving! Start saving earlier as soon you get your first real job.

What do you wish you took less seriously in your 20’s?

I was always a pretty serious young lady and pretty much took everything seriously, so the only thing I wish I would’ve taken less seriously is maybe being less serious about everything

Favorite memory from your 20’s?

I would have to say it was when I graduated with my Bachelors. I worked 30+ hours a week while in college and took 3-4 classes a semester. I graduated a bit later than normal, but I finished and it was all worth it. I have to say working while in college was not easy but it made me responsible and prepared me for my future job. The graduation celebration my parents gave me was also amazing and unforgettable. Hearing others speak kindly about me was such a lovely feeling. It really does pay to keep your mind on the prize and never ever give up.

My other favorite memory from my 20’s is when my hubby proposed to me at the Japanese Garden of the University we both attended and graduated from. It was truly a moment never to forget.

In your early 20’s where did you think you would be (work, live etc) by 30?

I think every young person sees 30 as old until you get there. It’s actually not as old as it seems. I wanted to live somewhere in Southern CA next to the ocean and work in fashion, be married and have a family.

And where were you by 30? What did your life look like?

Well sort of… I worked/work in fashion, I was/am married, I lived in So-Cal, but I didn’t have any kids yet. I don’t think planning your every life move is the way to go I feel taking life one day at a time is a better way to live. This I’ve learned as I got older.

Were you ever worried that it wouldn’t all fall into place?

Of course this is why I’ve tried to let go of all the negative thoughts and the planning and just let life happen.

What is the greatest gift about being a woman in your 30’s?

You are much more knowledgeable and are much more confident in who you are. In your 20’s you’re discovering who you are and in your 30’s you pretty much know who you are, what you like, what you want and therefore you feel wiser and more like a woman.

When you look out onto the horizon. What do you hope your life looks like at 40?

Let’s see I’d like to still be working in fashion, still be married to the love of my life, living in So-Cal and hopefully vacationing with my family of 4 once a year.

What’s a quote/ saying you try to live your life by?

“A good head and a good heart are always a formidable combination.” -Nelson Mandela

I also love the saying “Patience is a virtue” this is so true.

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