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project 30 – marta

28 Aug


Marta, 34   / London, United Kingdom / founder of the coffee bird

What would your 30 something self tell your 20 something self if you could?

Fuck Yeah Lifestyle

Embrace a “Fuck Yeah” approach to life.

Be ruthless with your time. It is the most valuable asset you have in your life, don’t give it away easily. You should only allow people and activities into your life that you feel “FUCK YEAH” about.

If you’re not fuck yeah about it, get rid of it. Life so much better when you are surrounded by inspiring people and activities that your “FUCK YEAH” about.

What do you wish you took more seriously in your 20’s?

Being more mindful. Listen to your body, and don’t torture it. Listen to what your heart says. It’s always right.

Its you and yourself until the day you die, be as KIND and NICE and nourish yourself.   Being crazy about being “skinny” is a waste of time. It’s all about health.

What do you wish you took less seriously in your 20’s?

Other people’s expectations. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks.

Favorite memory from your 20’s?

Snorkeling in the Caribbean through out various trips. I must have been a mermaid in a previous life.

In your early 20’s where did you think you would be (work, live etc) by 30?

I thought I would be living in Paris, married to a hot French guy with a few kids, going to my castle on the weekends.

And where were you by 30? What did your life look like?

I was a partner for the firm I was working for in London.

Were you ever worried that it wouldn’t all fall into place?

Of course, but I learned that nothing ever seems to work when you spend your energy worrying. Surrendering in the moment and trusting that you are just where you need to be in this particular moment in time kind of catapults you over this.

What is the greatest gift about being a woman in your 30’s?

I am the best version of myself today.

When you look out onto the horizon. What do you hope your life looks like at 40?

I hope to be the best version of myself at that moment in time. I do hope to surf properly by then.

What’s a quote/ saying you try to live your life by?

“Bend my heart, to your will Oh Lord. “ Prayer I learned from the Bishop of Trinidad and Tobago. You will never be happy until your on the path you weren’t meant to be.

“Freedom comes through 100% commitment” Indecision actually wastes a lot of energy and time. Only when one is 100% committed are we ever free.

“In a gentle way you can change the world”


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8 Sep


The time has come for me to pack my bags and drive into the wilderness, to begin my buddhist adventure. I leave for Tassajara tomorrow morning at 5 and will be off the grid for a week. While there I will have no access to my cell phone or to a computer so I will not be able to blog! This will be very hard for me! But, I guess the whole point of the retreat is to be quiet so I am going to have to embrace it.  I went back and forth about having guest bloggers for the days I am absent but in the end I decided the blog should remain silent for 7 days if I am doing so.

I am very excited about going but I am not going to lie I am a little nervous as well. I simply have no idea what to expect! But, that’s part of the adventure right?! Questions in my head….Will I be able to find the place or will I get lost? Will I make it by noon like they requested? What will my work duties be? Will I be able to meditate all those hours? Will I be able to fall asleep there? Will my clothing choices be Tassajara appropriate? Will I lose my mind there? Will I have a huge epiphany about my life?

I can’t wait to share all my stories and thoughts with you guys when I return! I will be back in 7 days! Wish me luck!


“A jug fills drop by drop.”