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wedding wednesdays- the untold engagement story

1 May

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So yesterday I was driving home thinking about what I wanted to feature this week on Wedding Wednesdays…the insane flower quote I got? These things grow in the ground for christ’s sake!  My first solo lunch with my future mother in law? Picking a honeymoon location? Putting together the guest list? And then it dawned on me. I recently had a lengthy conversation with a friend who is dying to get engaged and is so frustrated with her boyfriend for not having asked yet and I thought, I never told you all how much I wanted to get in engaged. Like not in an endearing way. Like I kinda lost my mind there for a few months while waiting for Brian to pop the question. Brian and I now lovely refer to that dark period as “When Kate lost her mind”…it’s funny in retrospect. Really, it is. For a person who fancies herself zen, I can certainly be impatient. I like things to go my way and on my timeline and waiting for Brian to propose was simply the most maddening exercise the universe had ever given me.

The whole experience says so much about our personalities too. I throw myself head first into just about anything. I blaze ahead with out thinking. A quality that has both gotten me in trouble as well as helped me make bold decisions that have paid off. Brian on the other hand is meticulous about his next move. There isn’t a decision he’s ever made, quickly. If he’s in the market for a new jacket he scours the internet for days (even weeks! even months!) looking for the perfect one. I on the other hand go to bloomingdale’s with no intention of buying anything and come home with a new closet. We’re just different.

Also, guess who said “I love you” first? I just blurted it out one night as we lie in bed. That’s another problem I have…blurting things out the minute I feel them. So there I went throwing out the “I love you” much too early and got crickets. HE SAID NOTHING GUYS. I had scared him right back into his little shell and it took many, many many weeks for him to come out again and say, “I think I love you”. He couldn’t even go all out with it at first. Too scary! He had to tip toe into the water. This is the funniest thing about it though. This quality that makes me insane also made me fall in love with him. He’s not a bullshitter. He doesn’t say things unless he means it. He never tries to be anything he isn’t. Or feel anything he doesn’t. And guess what? When he finally did tell me he loved me it meant more to me than anything in the world. It was like I had never heard those words uttered to me before. They sounded new. He meant them deep in his bones.

So when it came to getting engaged, I knew I would have to be patient. Did that make the process any easier? NO. It literally consumed my thoughts for months. Why isn’t he proposing? Does he not want to marry me? But I feel like he does? Oh and every time a friend (who am I kidding, a stranger even!) would get engaged, I would become unhinged. I would either start a fight about it, cry, or just close my computer and walk out of the room, letting my silence speak for me. Clearly, this is the way to make a man want to spend eternity with you.

It was a totally annoying six months. But luckily, I finally exhausted myself and decided to STOP talking about it with him. I still talked about it to everyone else though. My poor mother probably wanted to get a new daughter. One that was normal.

The less I talked about though, the less it consumed my thoughts. Things were returning to normal at our house. He could even sleep with his eyes closed again.

And it was then that he surprised the living shit out of me with a proposal. I was wearing Pajamas for crying out loud. And you know what else? When he asked me to be his wife, I knew he meant it with every fiber of his being and I knew he meant forever.

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7 Apr

A sneak peak at our engagement shoot this weekend with One Part Gypsy

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8 Jan

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The blog world can be such a funny world! Many months ago when I was “Freshly Pressed” on WordPress, a lovely woman named Sophia found my blog. Since then we’ve become internet friends- exchanging emails on different topics and such. I always enjoy her witty, funny and thoughtful emails and comments. Cut to a month ago when she emailed me that she was coming to LA (she lives in North Carolina) for a trip and wondered if 1. I would like to meet up and 2. If Brian and I would be open to shooting some engagement photos with her (did I forget to mention she’s a talented photographer with a beautiful blog?).

I immediately thought it sounded fun. Brian on the other hand thought it sounded “not so fun”. A little known fact about Brian; he hates being in front of the camera. HATES. He much prefers being behind the camera. So he thought this whole shooting photos with a complete stranger sounded like a terrible, no-good idea. But luckily I can be persuasive and got him to agree to do it. And guess what?? Brian was proven wrong and Sophia was lovely and shooting with her was an easy, fun and comfortable experience. She even got Brian to smile- A BUNCH!

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Thanks, Sophia for a lovely afternoon and for these beautiful photos. It was such fun to spend time with you. xo

the story

25 Oct

After two glorious days in Ojai last weekend, at an amazing Manifestation workshop with Jennifer Pastiloff ( I will share more about it in a later post!), I woke up Sunday morning with a sore throat and decided that I didn’t have the energy for another full day of yoga. When I called Brian to tell him that I would be home by noon instead of six, he acted very strange. He actually sounded disappointed I was coming home (I now know that this was because I put a serious time crunch on his set up!) I asked, “What’s wrong with you? You don’t want me to come home? You aren’t excited to see me?” blah blah blah. He tried to backtrack but the damage was done- my feelings were hurt and I spent the WHOLE two-hour car ride home annoyed with him.

When I pulled up to our house, I noticed that all the shades were drawn on the windows. How strange, I thought. Brian usually loves to open all the shades and let the light pour in….maybe he went out? As I stared up at the windows contemplating this, I saw his little head poke out from behind one of the shades. With a surprised look on his face, he yelled, “hi babe!” I was still annoyed by our earlier conversation, so I just muttered a flat, “hi”.

Let me set the scene for you. I was dressed in pajamas, I had no make-up on, my hair was in an unbrushed bun on my head and I hadn’t showered in two days. I was a sight to behold! But I didn’t care because my plan was to climb back into bed with a book and relax for the afternoon.

I dragged myself up the stairs, opened the front door and saw that our living room was covered in rose petals, flickering candles and vases of red and white roses. The whole situation was such a surprise that it took me a minute to register what was happening. I thought…why the hell are there rose petals all over our house??? When I saw a smiley and nervous Brian standing in the middle of it all, it hit me what was happening and then I thought…I can’t believe I’m wearing fucking pajamas right now!!!

Brian got down on one knee and said a bunch of incredibly romantic and beautiful things, all of which are a bit of a blur because I was having an out-of-body experience. But it ended with…”Will you marry me?” I was so overcome with emotion and excitement that I threw myself down on the ground and wrapped my arms around him (I broke my sunglasses and almost lit myself on fire in the process. It was graceful) We cried, laughed and kissed…soaking in the moment. Then Brian said…”Don’t you want to see the ring??!”

In the heat of the moment I had forgotten about the ring!! I screamed…”YES!” He opened the box and inside was the exact ring I wanted. He had picked perfectly. A very good sign that I am marrying the right man.

Holy shit!! I’m getting married!!!

I am the luckiest girl in the world to be marrying this man. He is the kindest, most generous, creative, soulful, intelligent, honest, funny and sexy man I have ever met- he’s my best friend and I can’t wait to be his wife.

I have been walking around in a daze of joy the last few days. I am so grateful.

…365 til wedding?

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I said yes!

22 Oct

I said yes!! I am so excited, happy and grateful. Full story coming soon…!