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project 30 – sophie

11 Jul

I’ve been wanting the sweet, soulful and talented Sophie Jaffe of The Philosophie to do the project 30’s Q&A forEVER. Problem was I had to wait for her to turn 30! Which luckily happened a few months ago. I seriously don’t understand how she was able to accomplish so much before turning 30- impressive! I met Sophie a few years back through mutual friends and I am so grateful to now call her a friend. She’s a big bright light and her positive energy is infectious! Enjoy her answers…

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Sophie, 30

What would your 30 something self tell your 20 something self if you could?

Get crazy and let go a bit more often. Have more sex. Create more experiences and trust yourself so that you can draw from them later: people rarely judge a person in their early 20’s for crazy behavior, so make it happen!

What do you wish you took more seriously in your 20’s?

Reading in my free time. Now that I have kiddos I just can’t muster up the brain power/ physically energy to read more than one page without passing out.

What do you wish you took less seriously in your 20’s?

My life has always been pretty serious. I was forced to grow up and take a mommy role of my brother at a young age. I had a wonderful childhood and made the most of it, but there wasn’t a lot a couldn’t take seriously because I didn’t have much of a choice.

Favorite memory from your 20’s?

Traveling all around the world/having adventures, Getting married + Giving birth to my two beautiful boys/the first most magic years with them.

In your early 20’s where did you think you would be (work, live etc) by 30?

I was still really discovering what I wanted and needed in my early 20’s so it was hard to project what may be possible by 30’s. A lot of shifts and awakenings occurred in my early 20’s. My childhood best friend died suddenly and unexpectedly and my mom developed breast cancer; both of which rocked my world. I know for sure I thought I would be on a more traditional path, educationally, and probably would’ve gotten my masters or MFT or be employed in a hospital as health psychologist. Really happy that didn’t happen 🙂

And where were you by 30? What did your life look like?

Married to the greatest man, 2 gorgeous kids + a prospering business I could’ve never dreamt up.

Were you ever worried that it wouldn’t all fall into place?

Never.

What is the greatest gift about being a woman in your 30’s?

Perspective.

When you look out onto the horizon. What do you hope your life looks like at 40?

Quiet moments with myself (reading finally… maybe?), building family memories with my hubby, parents + children and lots of vacations traveling the world, soaking it all in with my beautiful friends and their families.

What’s a quote/ saying you try to live your life by?

“Be Soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let the pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place.” -Kurt Vonnegut

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project 30 – Anya

12 Mar

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I actually have to credit Brian for bringing Anya into my life! They went to college at Cal Poly together and have been best buds ever since. Brian has seriously good taste in friends because I LOVE this woman. She’s passionate, creative, smart, brave, spiritual, hysterical (I mean, doesn’t the picture above say it all?) and just an all around good human. I hope you enjoy her answers as much as I did. They made me laugh and cry and be thankful for this ride we call life.

Anya, 31

What would your 30 something self tell your 20 something self if you could?

You will endure more than you ever thought possible and you will survive. Stay TRUE to yourself and LISTEN to your gut. It was ALWAYS right (self-righteous biotch). And keep telling your family that you love them… it will make some of that struggle a little bit easier!

What do you wish you took more seriously in your 20’s?

Nothing. When we take ourselves or life too seriously, we miss out on the greatest moments and some amazingly healing laughter!

What do you wish you took less seriously in your 20’s?

Boys… sorry, I mean men! Wait… no I didn’t! BOYS! BOYS! BOYS! I wish I’d spent less time looking for “Mr. Right,” had spent less energy on the “Mr. Right Nows” and more time discovering Miss Anya!

Favorite memory from your 20’s?

Not to be tear-inducing, but the last fight I had with my father. We were in the kitchen and he was ticked off because I didn’t do the dishes the nano-second I finished eating off of them or something kitchen-clean-up related as was usual! Here I am, 28 years old, his long-lost daughter visiting from my current life abroad and he rips into me over some mundane chore I didn’t even do when I was 10! The best part is that he got so angry he called me an idiot! It sounds so horrible, but I had to burst out laughing because I know with every inch of my being that he’s never thought of me as less than intelligent and capable. It was so funny to me that his anger caused him to revert to childish name-calling and it broke the back-and-forth of our argument. It also led to that feeling of closeness you only achieve with your parents once you’ve pushed each other too far and scratched the other raw. He has been gone two and a half years, but I will never forget his temper, his love of a clean kitchen, and my certainty that my father loved me and was heart-crushingly proud of who I had become. (I failed… totally cried through writing this. I miss him so much still and I hear it just gets worse… ok Anya, see #1 again)

In your early 20’s where did you think you would be (work, live etc) by 30?

I was sure I’d be married or in a serious relationship, finally out of school working with the top veterinarians working in equine surgery or theriogenology (fixing horses or making new little ones), and living in California in a hot body and with money to spare!

And where were you by 30? What did your life look like?

I was in school. Actually, my 30th birthday was right before I started a new degree at a new school… something I have had a LOT of practice doing! I was embarking on a very new frontier as a veterinarian (I’d at least gotten THAT degree done)! I was single for about a week… then in the worst relationship I have ever entered, working at a restaurant part-time to supplement more student loans, in a new town that I was pretty sure I didn’t want to stay in… and I was pretty happy!

Were you ever worried that it wouldn’t all fall into place?

Constantly, but I kept going! That definitely counts for something! The one thing I make sure I take with me everywhere I go is hope. I keep hopeful that I will one day be more comfortable in my own skin, find a city or piece of land that really feels like home, make a difference… a real difference in the lives of animals, and maybe even have my very own love story. Each day is a gift and an adventure, so hope keeps my eyes and ears open and my heart excited for whatever may come my way!

What is the greatest gift about being a woman in your 30’s?

Youth! I am only in my 30s and pretty sure I am only improving as a woman, a citizen, a family member or friend, and am more excited about my career than ever! Women at this age have is so great these days because we aren’t expected to be experienced wives and mothers of 3 at 30 anymore (thanks GOODness)! We spread our wings in our 20s, but are really only just learning how to ride the wind and enjoy it in our 30s!

When you look out onto the horizon. What do you hope your life looks like at 40?

Well, first of all I hope I LOOK like my mother did in her 40s! She looked maybe 28… that lucky girl still looks amazing! I am learning to not plan it out too carefully. I hope I am still hopeful, still idealistic, and still driven to use my skills for good. If I get all nasty and angry, have let the struggles get me down (by not remembering #1) or have lost my hope, you have my permission to give me a hearty slap across my (botox free) face! Life has been very good to me so far and I’m hoping from here until 40 continues the current trend.

What’s a quote/ saying you try to live your life by?

Be BOLD and mighty forces will come to your aid!” -Goethe 

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