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project 30 – rachel

12 Aug

 

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Rachel, 33

What would your 30 something self tell your 20 something self if you could?

I used to think I would want to tell her it gets better but now that it actually has gotten better I realize I wouldn’t want her to change any of her emotionally extreme or indulgent ways. I spent a good part of my 20’s heartbroken and lovesick. Whether I was getting over a break up or deeply falling in love with someone I always felt heartbroken. In retrospect I know that I had to work through a lot of emotions and traumas. Karmically I was attracted to certain people who allowed me to work through those emotions and come to a deeper understanding of myself which ultimately allowed me to truly love myself. So I think if I were to go back and tell that innocent lovesick girl that it gets better, firstly she wouldn’t believe me and even if she did I wouldn’t want to take any of the pain away from her because it allowed me to become who I am today. So with all that said I think I would tell her to travel more and write in her journal everyday and not just when it suited her.

What do you wish you took more seriously in your 20’s?

I wish I had saved more money and learned the value of saving and not spending. It’s still something I’m working on. I also wish I had developed a more serious workout regime when my body was more willing to adapt.

What do you wish you took less seriously in your 20’s?

I might have said heartbreak at one point but now I wouldn’t give that up for anything. I did take myself and my work very seriously then and I still do now but I think it gave me the drive to accomplish what I did, so I guess I don’t have any regrets when it comes to that.

Favorite memory from your 20’s?

Walking around the streets of St. Petersburg Russia in the dead of winter while trying to get over a broken heart. I know it sounds morbid but it was a really beautiful time in my life and having that kind of really pure solitude allowed me to learn how to be my own best friend. It was an extraordinary adventure.

In your early 20’s where did you think you would be (work, live etc) by 30?

I thought I would be living in New York city happily married with 2 kids making films and playing music. I’m still doing writing, directing, acting and playing music but I’m in Los Angeles and waiting for the day when I can make a living solely from my work.

Were you ever worried that it wouldn’t all fall into place?

I still am but the worry is less angst ridden and more fueled by patience, passion and gratitude. I have learned to appreciate and love where I am even though I am still working on fulfilling all of my dreams. Some days I do feel overwhelmed that I’m not where I want to be and I have to be vigilante about correcting that and being grateful for where I am and all the dreams I have already fulfilled.

What is the greatest gift about being a woman in your 30’s?

Self love and self-knowledge. In my 20’s I had to go through a lot of heartache to understand the importance of self-love. Once I learned how to love and understand myself I no longer felt that I had to hold onto things and people that were no longer working for me or supporting my journey. The things and decisions I used to obsess over in my 20’s are now for the most part easy to include or eliminate in my life now and I’m very grateful for that clarity and wisdom.

When you look out onto the horizon. What do you hope your life looks like at 40?

By 40 I want to have a beautiful home of my dreams living with Blake (currently my fiance). We will have at least 2 children and we will both be thriving in our careers. I will be making films and TV shows as a writer, director and actress and Blake will be making his music and producing for other artists as well as thriving as a visual artist. We will have a garden where we will grow all of our produce and herbs and at night our children will walk barefoot into our garden to collect the fixings for our dinner. We will also have an incredible music studio where we will record our music. Together as a family we will travel the world and experience other cultures and languages and we will always be involved with making the world a better place through art and our humanitarian work.

What’s a quote/ saying you try to live your life by?

“In spite of everything I still believe that people are really good at heart.” – Anne Frank

The first time I ever read this quote I was living in New York city and was walking around the upper east side where I was currently living. It was Yom Hashoah (Holocaust Remembrance Day) and someone was holding up a big sign that had Anne Frank’s image featured prominently with this quote below it. I saw it and immediately burst into hysterical tears. If someone like Anne Frank could say something so profound, insightful and hopeful than we can all follow suit. I don’t believe people are born evil but they can be taught, which means that evolutionarily speaking they can be untaught. Treating all people with love, kindness and compassion is one way I can contribute daily to making this world a better place and I make it my mandate to do it everyday even if and especially when someone else is unkind to me.

 

connect with Rachel – website / twitter

her projects – Without A Home / They’re With Me

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project 30 – danielle

7 Aug

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Danielle , 31

What would your 30 something self tell your 20 something self if you could?

TRAVEL as much as you possibly can, go far, be adventurous and expand your consciousness.

LEARN as much as you can, specifically as many languages and sciences as you can, to give you a wide breadth of judgment and communication.

READ as much literature as you can, focusing on the great classics of the world.

TRUST your instincts, do not allow anyone else to shape your world-view.

BE yourself and follow your passions.

What do you wish you took more seriously in your 20’s?

Having fun! Most of my 20s were spent studying (law school, the bar exam, case law as a prosecutor). All of these endeavors were so serious!!! There wasn’t much room for fun or being carefree and just going with the flow. I wish I had realized the value of letting loose at a younger age.

What do you wish you took less seriously in your 20’s?

Appearances. Not just my physical appearance but concerns with overall impressions I was imparting to the outside world. I was obsessed with what other people thought of me…and what a shame that was! It is such a waste of time and energy, and so massively unimportant. From obsessing about whether my shoes matched my outfit, to what car I drove – this constant pressure of keeping up with the Joneses did nothing positive for me.

If there was one thing I could change, I would have the attitude that I have today throughout my 20’s – which is being firmly committed to being true to myself, and who I am no matter what sort of impression it may leave on others.

Favorite memory from your 20’s?

Hands down my favorite memory was my first trip to the African continent when I was 21 years old. I went to many African countries and was changed by the astounding beauty of untouched nature, the wildlife, the people and their slower pace of life. The profundity of it all left a strong impression on me, and shaped my interests moving forward. Today I still commit much time and energy toward wildlife and habitat conservation.

In your early 20’s where did you think you would be (work, live etc.) by 30?

Ha! This is such a great question! The time flies by so quickly and you are 30 before you know it. First and foremost, as a twenty-something I thought people in their 30’s were “old”, in fact I held that belief all the way until my 29th birthday!

Given that I thought 30 year olds were old, I definitely believed that I would be married, with 2 kids, living in a house like the one I grew up in with a pool, and a huge backyard… I remember being 28 and thinking that I still had so much time to create that by 30…

…and then, once I was 30 I stepped back and asked myself if that was what I really wanted.

I took a different course, making some difficult choices – broke an engagement, changed jobs, and started to form the happy life that I live today which has none of the accoutrements that I once believed were so essential.

And where were you by 30? What did your life look like?

At 30, I was finally in a loving relationship with my wonderful fiancée. I had 3 Chihuahuas instead of 2 human kids. I began my course to become a yoga instructor, and truly dedicated myself to the things that mattered to me – traveling, learning new languages, devoting myself to my lifelong passion of painting, and getting involved with volunteering for homeless animals.

Were you ever worried that it wouldn’t all fall into place?

Absolutely yes! And the older I get the more I realize that there is no place to fall – believing there is a “place” is a very immature point of view in my estimation.

You create your life moment by moment, worrying about where you may or may not be in the future does not improve your life today. Your present moment is the only moment that you are assured to live so LIVE it, engage in it, and be happier.

What is the greatest gift about being a woman in your 30’s?

Having the courage to make my life a reflection of who I am.

When you look out onto the horizon. What do you hope your life looks like at 40?

To be honest, I do not have a vision for 40. I do have one goal – I hope that I am leading a fulfilled life at 40.

What’s a quote/ saying you try to live your life by?

I couldn’t narrow it down to 1 quote I live by– so here are 5 quotes that encapsulate my philosophy of life…

“The question isn’t who is going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me?” – Howard Roark, The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand.

“A man who dares to waste one hour of life has not discovered the value of life.” – Charles Darwin

“The most beautiful thing we can experience is the mysterious. It is the source of all true art and all science. He to whom this emotion is a stranger, who can no longer pause to wonder and stand rapt in awe, is as good as dead: his eyes are closed.” – Albert Einstein

“Necessity is not an established fact, but an interpretation.” – Friedrich Nietzsche

“Until one has loved an animal, a part of one’s soul remains unawakened.” – Anatole France.

 

 

project 30 – erin

31 Jul

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Erin of Coined LIfe, 30

What would your thirty something self tell your twenty something self?

Be kind to yourself – you’re learning. My 20’s were a time of self-discovery. It wasn’t until after I finished grad school in my mid-twenties before I fully understood that I could do ANYTHING I wanted with my life. Including creating a life for myself that had nothing to do with my formal education. That it’s more about the quality of life and taking risks than the security of a traditional job for me (it’s not for everyone, but I do know it isn’t for me!). I had a hard time focusing at work knowing I was supposed to be at my assigned spot for a set number of hours each week. I realized early into my “career” I should have had the “World’s Worst Employee” coffee cup in my cubicle!

What do you wish you took more seriously in your twenties?

I took myself TOO seriously in my 20’s. The only area I could have taken more seriously was better financial planning. I spent most of my 20’s living in expensive cities like Washington D.C. and L.A. and added travel and becoming a freelance web designer to the mix. Really, I have no regrets. It was well-worth it to have those experiences. Without taking those risks I wouldn’t be who I am nor where I am as a business owner. I’m taking my financial future more seriously in my 30’s (as one probably should).

What do you wish you took less seriously in your twenties?

Ummm… myself! After grad school I put myself in a position to move in a very professional trajectory with my career. Two years as a junior at a consulting firm. Go back and get my PhD (paid for by the firm, of course!). And then “working my way up” in D.C. Two years into my D.C. days I made the decision to follow my heart and moved to L.A. for my relationship at that time, which took me off course from the “original plan”. I stressed a lot about my decision to not follow “the plan” for a solid 2.5 years, but eventually L.A.’s creative vibe and my fellow creative friends (like Kate!) helped me to chill and not take myself too seriously.

Favorite memory from your twenties?

I traveled to Greece when I was 21 as part of a study abroad trip. That trip changed my worldview on so many levels – how I looked at food, cultivating relationships, politics and history. I grew up in a small town (pop. 500) and had gone to undergrad in a small town (pop. 17,000 with college students!). The experiences of traveling aside, I made a deep, unshakable friendship with one of my fellow travelers. She’s my soulmate in many ways. I can’t imagine that trip or my life without her.

In your early twenties where did you think you would be (live, work etc) by 30?

I thought I would be in D.C. doing the career thing!

And where were you by 30? What did your life look like?

By the age of 30 I had lived in Detroit for a year, followed by D.C. for two years, then onto Los Angeles for four years and finally moved back to the midwest in October of 2013 (at the age of 30). I have lived out of bags and boxes for most of the time since then as I transitioned into a new home and lifestyle. My boyfriend and I bought a home in June of this year in Columbia, Missouri. We’re settling in, blissfully awaiting the arrival of our first child in December of this year. Life is nothing like I pictured in my early 30’s; it is better than I could have ever imagined.

Where you ever worried it wouldn’t all fall into place?

Absolutely. In 2013 I went through a major breakup. I had been with my boyfriend at the time for almost 8 years and engaged to him for almost 2 years. One day in September of last year I had this moment of intense, acute clarity. I couldn’t see myself spending my life with nor marrying him, which had been my plan for many years. Most of my worry about what life would look like and how it would come together had been on my mind for the better part of a year before that day. In that day and in that moment of clarity I felt at peace, finally. Once I made the decision to end the relationship, I trusted everything would work out the way it should. It has worked out beyond any expectations I could have had.

What is the greatest gift about being a woman in your 30’s?

Knowing the value of my time. I was a “yes” person and a people-pleaser most of my life. Owning my own business and gaining wisdom (I hope!) with each passing year has given me the confidence to say “no” and not feel guilty for drawing a line. I know my priorities and value my time.

When you look out onto the horizon. What do you hope your life looks like at 40?

Traveling with my now-boyfriend / soon-to-be husband and our two amazing kids in the summertime, working and running my business(es!) during the rest of the year. We have our first child arriving in December of this year and would love to have one more after that. Being surrounded with lots of love and family time. I love the thought of having incredible little people in our life who are curious and having the means to share the world and fulfill their curiosities in my 40’s.

What’s a quote/ saying you try to live your life by?

Be brave. Take risks. Nothing can substitute experience.” – Paulo Coelho (really anything by him “gets” my soul and the way I feel about life).

Connect with the lovely Erin!

blog, twitter and instagram @erinhaslag

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