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22 Jan


This past Sunday I had my first date with my new little sister. Leading up to the big day, I was agonizing over what activity to do with her. I now totally feel for guys and the pressure they must feel trying to impress on the first date. Being the thoughtful man that Brian is, he reached out to his buddy Jeremy who has been volunteering as a big brother for the last few years for ideas. Jeremy sent me these…

– Hiking
– Fishing
– Bowling
– Movies
– Eating
– Frozen Yogurt
– Museum
– Go to the park
– Miniature golf
– Archery

I immediately knew fishing and archery were out. Granted, I’ve only met Ana once but she didn’t strike me as a girl who would like archery. I did like the idea of miniature golfing though and I am always down for a frozen yogurt date. I wrote Jeremy back thanking him for the ideas…I also asked him if it was normal to be nervous. To which he replied…

“Absolutely.  Definitely normal to be nervous.  It’s like a first date, except harder because they don’t have a good grasp of the art of conversation.  I think in the 3 1/2 years with my little brother the number of questions he’s asked me is still in the single digits.”

HA. Noted. With that said I ended up deciding I would give her three options when I picked her up…The Natural History Museum, miniature golfing & bowling. Giving her options seemed like the safest way to go on a first date.

When I arrived at her house I was warmly greeted by her father. Seriously, he like the sweetest human ever. Ana was dressed and ready to go so we hoped in my car. When I told her my ideas she quickly said, “I like museums!”. So the Natural History Museum is where we went! The afternoon went much smoother than I thought it would. While she didn’t ask me anything about myself (you were right Jeremy!) she’s very talkative and open so it was easy to keep the conversation going. I loved getting to know more about her family and background. For four hours I was totally immersed in her world…from boys and school…to the world of minions (clearly, I need to see the movie Despicable Me).

When I got home from our date I felt lighter and it dawned on me…I didn’t think about myself once during our time together…all my stresses and concerns were a million miles away.

I’m not sure who’s going to benefit more from this friendship.