wait…your 33 or my 33???

16 Jun



Many moons ago, before Brian and I were even engaged….actually, it might have even been before we were even living together, but both knew that we were most likely going to end up together, we talked babies. We talked about them in a very broad way. Both checking in with each other that the other wanted children one day. Both did, check! Then we talked about when the ideal time would be to start a family and we settled on 33. I don’t really know why we chose 33 but it seemed like the right age. At the time 33 was many years away.

Cut to our honeymoon (Brian currently aged 32 and I will be 32 next month) as we floated around the pool, tropical beach in front of us, drinks on the lounges behind us when somehow in walked the conversation of starting a family and we both looked at each other with wide eyes and said “WAIT???? Your 33 or my 33????”  I think 33 snuck up on us both rather quickly! We agreed that it would not be Brian’s 33 considering that is only 8 months away and feels much too soon for us both. So it’s looking like it is going to be my 33.

I honestly can’t believe I am at a point in my life where this is a real conversation. Time flies! I will say though…babies are starting to look pretty damn appealing. Clearly, my baby radar has been turned on. I also get a flutter in my heart when I think about meeting a little human that Brian and I made together. Not to mention Frank is going to make a fabulous big brother. With all that said…I am not ready to add one to our lives at this exact moment. I’m just saying….I am warming up to the idea. I’d also love to get one more big faraway trip in before adding a little one to the mix. I don’t imagine babies love traveling for 24 hours or trekking the Himalayas, you know?

But, is there ever the perfect time to start a family? I mean are you ever really ready?? I don’t imagine you are. I’d love to hear your thoughts on the subject!


9 Responses to “wait…your 33 or my 33???”

  1. amelie88 June 16, 2014 at 11:50 am #

    Aaah, babies. 🙂 I think it’s good to wait a few years before jumping into having a baby. My parents waited 6 years before having me (also because they were too broke and poor to afford a baby!) but them my mom got married at 24. I’m always surprised when a couple decides to get pregnant right away because I don’t understand the rush. That’s a lifelong commitment you’re signing up for! You and Brian will be lovely parents I’m sure. 🙂

    • katemcclafferty June 16, 2014 at 11:54 am #

      I totally agree with you about waiting and enjoying being married! If I wasn’t 32 I would totally wait 6 years! Maybe more! HA. Thank you for your sweet words. Your comments always bring a smile to my face 🙂

  2. the usual bliss June 16, 2014 at 12:48 pm #

    I think you’re never fully “ready” because every parent’s experience is different! I do believe that it’s important to savor this time in your relationship as newlyweds. It’s so different than dating or even being engaged, and it’s a special time before the wonderful madness of little ones changes the vibe.

    • katemcclafferty June 16, 2014 at 6:33 pm #

      SO true. Being a wife feels completely different. I’m loving this new phase and I’d love to soak it up for as long as possible!

  3. Danielle June 16, 2014 at 3:36 pm #

    Eee… how exciting! Coming from someone who’s miles from marriage and baby carriages: no, there is no “perfect” or “right” time to start a family. Or so I hear 🙂 I agree with the others in that it’s probably best to savor a new marriage as well as be somewhat comfortable financially, but I’m sure each and every couple goes about it in their own way. Babies though. Gosh, I love ’em. And I do look forward to being a mom someday.

    • katemcclafferty June 16, 2014 at 6:31 pm #

      Thanks for your thoughts sweetness! I always love your comments. I agree there is no “perfect time”. ps…You may be miles from babies but I am convinced you will be a fabulous momma:) xoxo

  4. hunting for bliss June 16, 2014 at 6:24 pm #

    I think waiting and gathering more adventures as just the two of you is a great way to go!! I also don’t think there is ever a perfect time or that you’re ever really ready! Matt is 33 and I’m 30 and we are “ready-ish” but we have had 8 years of adventuring and growing together. Personally, it scares me a bit–bringing another person into our sacred relationship but it will be a new kind of adventure 🙂 My only real advice would be to see a dr to make sure that you are both reproductively healthy…whether you wait two or three years to start trying. That way you know what you’re working with. xxxx

    • katemcclafferty June 16, 2014 at 6:28 pm #

      That advice is SO good. Seriously! It never crossed my mind to get checked out before we start trying. That’s brilliant. Always good to know what you’re working with! I appreciate you words. Exciting that you guys are getting “ready-ish”!!! Can’t wait to follow along on that adventure xoxo

  5. Sherri Neefe June 16, 2014 at 11:47 pm #

    Definitely no perfect time. Both my girls are doing their “baby thing” in their early thirties. I think they would both agree…they’re glad they waited, but sometimes wish they’d started sooner when it was easier physically to keep up! 😮

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