A friend of mine shared the below excerpt, via The Power Path on their facebook wall a few days ago and it really resonated with me. Remembering that I have a choice at all times has been a HUGE theme in my life recently. From simple daily choices like…if you get to a yoga class, you are a happier person..so go to a yoga class everyday…it’s so simple…to bigger choices…like how I have chosen to respond to some surprising and sad news that I got upon our return from our honeymoon…I always have a choice and when I remember that, it gives me a sense of power. Life isn’t just “happening” to me.
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“The Theme for June 2014 is CHOICE. There were many other phrases and words that came to describe the month such as ‘commitment’, ‘just do’ etc., but I chose CHOICE because it really does cover all aspects of what this time frame is about and what it can teach us.
“Claiming your CHOICE in something is the shortcut to eradicating any vestige of Martyrdom or being the Victim of circumstance. This is not an easy month but it can be a really good one in what it teaches you.
“This month will require a commitment to a daily practice of CHOOSING how to be proactive in your life. It is time to move from being passive and letting life happen to you, to having a more active role in asserting your intentions and deciding what it is that you want.
“Those of you that are used to letting others make your choices for you (you know who you are) need to step up, get over your fear of failure or rejection, and decide for yourself what it is that you want for a change. This is empowering and the influences of the month will only support this process for you…
“It is also a time to work on accepting the choices others make without feeling victimized by them. When someone makes a choice that permanently changes your life such as a relationship leaving you, a loved one passing, a job ending, or any decision that affects you in a challenging way, you can either get stuck in feeling extremely victimized or you can be in acceptance of that choice and choose to use it as a bid for power in the next part of your life.
“Every challenge that is brought on by a choice that is not yours can turn into a choice that is yours. The choice is to accept it and use it as an opportunity for a bid for power. This does not mean you have to like it. It just means you accept it and allow it to empower you instead of dis-empowering you.
“Here are some examples of CHOICES this month.
“If you are impatient and stuck behind a very slow line or vehicle or person, you can choose to accept it and to slow down yourself. You can choose to see it as an opportunity to enjoy a slower pace. You can choose to have enough time for everything and you can choose to be happy instead of irritated.
“If you are self deprecating or have low self esteem issues, it is important that you work on being proactive and take a more active role in putting forth what you want. Practice making choices that are yours and voicing your desires.
“If you are stuck in indecision about something out of fear, you need to make a choice. It will free the energy and empower you. The choice can be a small baby step. The first baby step is followed by another, until the steps get bigger and more confident.
“If you have martyrdom and are often feeling victimized by life, then you can begin to take responsibility by eradicating all blame and choosing to see your situation as a bid for power instead of someone else’s fault.
“If you are a stubborn person and tend to block the flow by resisting what others choose, try being in acceptance around their choices and seeing that you always have a choice too. Instead of resisting their choice, focus on your own choices.
“Remember that there are many choices out there that you cannot change. What you can change is your relationship to those choices. You can accept them, you can learn from them, you can decide to be empowered instead of devastated by them.
“You can choose to have a good day no matter what happens. You can choose to see spirit in everything. You can choose to be in love with life. You can choose joy instead of fear. You can choose to forgive instead of holding others hostage for your misery. You can choose NOT to suffer.
“This is a month of movement. Shifting out of the sluggish integrative and assimilative influence of May, there is a sense of just wanting to ‘go for it already’. The body wants to move, and there may be a tendency towards impatience.
“You may feel almost an urgency to make certain decisions or choices and some of you may have great clarity about what those choices are and some of you may not be clear at all except for the sense that something has to shift and a choice has to be made. Often you have to work energetically first to clear a path for clarity to show up.
“It is important to put the mind in its place as well. As we know in our hearts, the mind does not always have all the information that it wants to have before making a choice.
“This month there will be many lessons and opportunities to trust the clarity of the heart and the emotions before knowing intellectually what choices are right. Choices that are made from the heart don’t always make intellectual sense but they are more authentic.
“So the lessons of the month are that you ALWAYS have a CHOICE. There is not such thing as not having any choice. Even when it feels like you don’t, you can always start with the choice to accept, then a choice to use the opportunity to empower yourself. Bottom line is that it is YOUR choice.
Kate, this resonated with me a lot. I am working with a coach who is showing me where I am “unconsciously committed” to things that are no longer serving me. Choosing to say no is very hard! Thank you for sharing this.