the kind of wife I want to be

14 Aug


Many moons ago I wrote a post entitled “the kind of woman I want to be“. Funny enough it is still one of my favorite posts. I really enjoyed the exercise of putting my visions on paper. It helped solidify things for me.  Although I will admit that I still don’t put the cap back on the toothpaste or wear matching undergarments but I’m a work in progress and I like the woman I am becoming more and more every day.

Considering that marriage is on the forefront of my mind (did I mention I am getting married in 87 days?) I thought it might be a good time to write “the kind of wife I want to be” edition. I’ve been thinking a lot about what being a “wife” means. What it means to me more importantly. So here goes…

I want to remember to listen, really listen, when Brian shares his thoughts with me

I want to remember to find his idiosyncrasies endearing instead of annoying

I always want to greet him with a kiss even if I have a million other things going on

I never want to fall asleep angry with him

I want to steal away for date nights once a week

I want to always remember to keep our love of travel and adventure alive…even when we feel bogged down by responsibilities….because there is nobody I prefer traveling with more than Bri.

I want to remember to pick up his favorite mint chip ice cream…just because

I want to admire and appreciate who he is and all that he contributes to our life

I want to remain in awe of his talents

I want to remember to make time for me and my interests throughout our marriage

I want to steal away for date nights and weekend trips with my girlfriends because making time for that is important

I want to create a warm home filled with laughter and love

I want to build a family with him

I want to be the kind of wife that isn’t afraid of the tough moments, days, weeks or years

I want to remember it’s ok to have disagreements because they will only bring us to a more open and honest place

I want to remember how lucky I am to be his wife


I would LOVE to hear your thoughts on what it means to be a “wife” as well as any tips you may want to share with me on marriage! Please comment below!


4 Responses to “the kind of wife I want to be”

  1. maternalmedia August 14, 2013 at 2:15 pm #

    Loving the oldness as much as you once loved the newness. That’s what it takes to be a good wife/husband.

  2. the usual bliss August 14, 2013 at 3:20 pm #

    Print this out and look at it from time to time. Over time, a marriage can become a series of habits and routines. Make sure they are the GOOD habits. And always say it out loud when you’re thinking something good about your man. Mostly, I think the golden rule applies- treat him how you hope to be treated by your mate. So excited for your adventures ahead…you better be taking photos of it all! 🙂 xx

  3. Erin Haslag (@erinhaslag) August 19, 2013 at 9:43 am #

    My friends and I were recently having the discussion of what changes when you go from a long-term relationship to marriage (context: one has been with her partner for 7 years; the other for 6 years and recently married; I have been with mine for 8 years). Our recently married friend said that nothing really changed for either of them in terms of who they are or who they want to be. The shift was more subtle and learning to relax and find humor in the aspects of their relationship or personalities that they found irritating prior to marriage. Instead of being angry, they both simply shrug and say “oh well, we’re married now! can’t run!”, which I think is completely adorable. For them marriage is more of the promise to accept each other more wholly, flaws and all, and to let go of the small things.

    My guess is you already are and do all of the things on this list. I can’t wait to hear / see how marriage enhances what you already have and are as a couple. xx!

  4. Crystal August 22, 2013 at 1:33 pm #

    Love this. Very smart. These are the things you need to remember when he pisses you off too 😉 xoxo

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