This past weekend Brian (with a bit of coaxing) and I spent Saturday morning tackling a “wedding to do list” that has been burning a hole in my purse. Seriously every time I glance at it tucked away in my day planner, I have to pop a xanax. It just keeps growing! I’m also terribly aware of how quickly the next 3 1/2 months are going to fly by so in my mind every weekend counts. Brian on the other would be completely comfortable picking out his groomsmen’s suits two weeks before the big day, as well as decide what our vows should be the night before. This both fascinates me and infuriates me. I mean, like really? So as you can imagine getting him to happily set aside a sunny morning in July to talk about what our flower girls should wear in November was a challenge. But I got him to agree to it and he we actually had some fun in the process! Although we both can’t wait until we are married and on our honeymoon.
the list in no particular order…
– flower girl dresses
– order invitations
– book honeymoon
– ring bearer outfit
– bachelorette weekend
– bridal shower invite list
– wedding rings
– VOWS
– set up mock-up meeting with floral
– valet
– booze quote
– veil?
-photobooth?
– chalkboard for menu
– wood platter for cake
– groomsmen suits
– order last two bridesmaid dresses
– make up trial
– hotel for wedding weekend
– set up first dress fitting
– wedding insurance
– program
– cake cutting knives
Next to “Cake cutting knives” Brian secretly wrote “YAY!”- Can you see what I’m up against here? After four hours in our pajamas on the couch with a puppy biting at our feet, we crossed 5 items off the list.
1. We picked out our invitations but didn’t actually order them because when it came to filling in “what time” our wedding was, we both looked at each other and said “Do you know what time we are getting married?”
2. wrote emails to the valet and booze companies for final quotes. baby steps
3. ordered engraved cake knives (clearly, I ordered these while Brian pretended to be busy “researching”, does he not know I can see ESPN pulled up on his computer screen?)
4. I set up my first dress fitting
5. we talked about Madagascar and Belize as honeymoon locations. Weighing the pros and cons of both while we flipped through travel books. This is definitely one of my favorite activities.
6. and booked a hotel room for the weekend of our wedding. Brian actually took the lead on this one. Bravo!
We didn’t make as much of a dent in the list as I had hoped. I haven’t broken the news yet to Brian that we will be spending this Saturday afternoon back at it. Hopefully, he’s reading this! Hi, Bri!
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“What counts in making a happy marriage is not how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility.” – Leo Tolstoy
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Kate, think always now about your oneness, as it comes so very close to its completeness…you both know each other well and what is incompatible is made better by the genuine love that you both have for each other. I once wrote a poem, that God blessed me with a best friend and also a wife. For when I see her, I see his love abounding within her as was evident every morning when she awakens, she always has that heavenly smile! When I think of God I know that he blessed me for I also feel His love in his words touch, always reminding me ‘that two will leave their parents and together from one very strong spirit! I can only smile at your post! Here is something for you and Brian, I do not know if I shared it before with you, but here goes…and please let Brian read it also…it reminds me of you both…almost like it was written for the both of you…God Bless!
The Oneness Of Love
When I write of you,
and my love for you,
I also write of God…
For I know He loves me
through the love
you give to me each day.
Through you I feel the
warmth and tenderness
of heaven, and it is so real.
With you I feel His touch,
when you touch me
with your hands.
And when I hold you,
I know that God holds
me so very near…also.
And the times I hear your
voice, it reminds me of
the quiet times when
when I talk to God…
For when I think of God
I see your love, and when
I think of you, I see the love
of God.
And it shows me that
our love is so blessed,
and so very complete
when we are equally
…one.
Wendell A. Brown
From “Morning Prayers”
Copyright and Registered,
April 2011, All Rights Reserved.
Wendell, your comments always leave me so touched. I not only liked this poem I loved it. You are so talented. Brian thought it was beautiful as well. I’m thinking of how to incorporate it into our wedding! It sounds like you and your wife have a beautiful relationship and union.
You may us any of my poems as needed, wishing you and Brian many future blessings Kate! God Bless!
My hubby was making a film the year we got married, but we managed to get through the to do list. Team work is a big part of marriage. Loved the quote at the end. Great read, be patient with each other always.
Thank you Frankie:)
You’re doing great! The list is intimidating but just keep at it. You can only do one thing at a time. A word of advice: delegate. Get your bridesmaids/maid of honor working on some stuff! If you try to control it all, you’ll make yourself nuts. Plus, on the big day, you want to enjoy the day, not be in charge. You’re the bride! So excited for you both!
(ESPN. Girl, I know.)
Just reading your list and I had to take an Advil haha!
right? Weddings are cray cray
Haha that is all cute. Wow and you got him to help with flower girl dresses that is one amazing task. Jack and I had a trip to Belize and we loved it (before we were married). Very peaceful and laid back if that is what you are looking for.
hahah. I actually meant to put Brazil! I swear. My head! I’d love to go to Belize as well though:)
Awe this is beautiful…congrats again and again…
Awe thank you Michael!
Oh, man. What is it with men and ESPN? I really, truly do not understand.
I think you guys are in great shape and your wedding is going to be one for the ages. XO
Right? ESPN has got a grip on these guys!! xoxo
My boyfriend is the same way! Literally we were trying to find a place for lunch yesterday. I was yelping and he was wanted to just stumble upon a place. After 2 failed attempts on my part (both places closed! I blame yelp), we just walked towards a spot we knew and ended up finding a new place. And I get that look from him that reads “see? we don’t need a plan.” Oh boys. Sometimes you gotta let them have their win. It looks like you two are getting things done and together–so therefore you win!
LOVED this comment! Nice to know that I am not alone feeling this way! I loved your story too. You’re right…you gotta let them have their win:)
Okay I’m sure you have this info already but I’ll share anyway. I’m sure you’ve heard of Etsy….though I know you are not doing the rustic barn wedding theme I know you like that style…..so on etsy brides that I have worked with like the shops “I wished for you” for cute burlap signs and ” Bragging Bags” for a plethora of other things including wood cake stands. There is also a website called “Save On Crafts” with a huge amount of wedding paraphernalia. I’m sure Brian will be tickled to look through these with you:). I can’t believe your wedding is 3.5 months away! Have you found a bow tie for Frank yet?;) Here is (I think) your favorite “color”:
http://www.etsy.com/listing/108831011/smokey-grey-cotton-dog-bow-tie
and this is what Frank would look like at the end of the day: http://snippetandink.com/classic-maryland-country-club-wedding/
….You’ll have to scroll down to see the image I’m talking about. I love the robes (on this post) from Plum Pretty as well. I want to get one just to have for myself. Happy planning!