Sweet baby Jesus do I feel incredibly overwhelmed with wedding stuff this week. Things that are giving me anxiety this week-
1- the vows. I had the bright idea we should write our own. It sounded incredibly romantic seven months ago when the wedding was a far away thing, now it just sounds plain scary. My thoughts are as follows…what if Brian writes better ones than I do? What if I forget mine? Why did I think I would be comfortable sharing my deepest feelings in front of a room of 150? Are they supposed to be funny? Are they supposed to be romantic? WTF? The pressure!!!!!
2- walking down the aisle. Why does this cause me anxiety? Well, what if I trip?? What if I get totally overwhelmed with everyone staring at me?? I mean, how terrifying to have a sea of people staring at you as you walk down the aisle to get married!! GASP.
3- my dress. You know how everyone says all brides lose weight before the big day? Well, I’m convinced I’m the one bride who would gain weight before the big day. If it were to happen to anybody I swear it would happen to me. I’m the girl who always runs into somebody they know when they run out to get coffee in their pajamas. I’m also an anxious eater. What if my dress doesn’t fit??? What happens then??? I guess I will have to keep nothing in my house the last month before the wedding other than green juices.
4- photo booth. Soooooo the other day I crunched numbers and came to the horrible conclusion we are over budget on the wedding. Sigh. Weddings are no joke. I’m fascinated how quickly they add up! When I was looking at the list of things we still needed a photo booth was one of them. Should I let this go even though I’m convinced a photo booth is necessary?? Don’t drunk people need an activity?
5- the veil. So last weekend my step-mama and I went to try on veils. I’m kinda thinking I want a veil for the ceremony. When I told Brian this, he laughed. He thought I was joking. When I told him I was being serious, he asked “Do people even wear veils anymore??” So now I’m asking you guys…Do people even wear veils anymore?? He also said if I wore one that covered my face he wouldn’t be able to stop from laughing. Sweet, huh? Even though I had absolutely no plans of covering my face with a veil, I might just do it now to mess with him.
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youre scaring me with the numbers thing.. stop that! 😉
You and your wedding will be GORGEOUS with or without a veil, photobooth or weeks worth of green juice. can’t wait for it!!!!
You make me laugh first thing in the morning. Walking down the isle twice was amazing. You float and none of those things in your mind come into play. It is a few minutes of bliss….always….I promise you that. I loved my veil on my first wedding and never gave any thought as to whether anyone wore them or not anymore…hmmm. Of course I pulled my hair up on top in a ponytail with the bottom down and the headband and comb with the veil attached slipped right into the pulled back part and gave me some height on top of my head which I needed (my head is small…haha). So Ioved it. It is a feeling more than anything else. Don’t worry about the green juice. Just as bad I lost 7 lbs before my wedding with Jack in 2000 and my gown was a little loose. Just be normal you will be fine. Your adrenalin will kick in and you should eat normal. Have fun with it.
I am so excited for your upcoming wedding! A few thoughts for you….We made our own photobooth. Bought a polaroid camera, a bunch of film, and set up a backdrop for guests to snap pictures of themselves. You can get props and a Photobooth sign on Etsy. Could be a great way to get that photobooth you want without spending a lot of money.
As for a veil, I never thought I would wear one until my mom made me try it on. I wore a long one that just fell to the back (not one that covered the face). It made the entire thing and really made my feel like a bride. I say, if you want to, wear that veil! I just wore it for the ceremony and then took it off. So happy I did…..
well that is my two cents! If you need anything or have any questions, I am here! xx
We had forks imprinted with Mr. and Mrs. at our wedding. 🙂
Vows: look online! There are so many guides and suggestions, poems, Native American ceremonies, cool cultural traditions- find what speaks to you and tweak it to make it your own. Also, our officiant had many different versions of vows that we could review and we pieced together things that meant something to us as a couple. The only person who matters when it comes to your vows is your husband.
Dress: Honeymoon Hundred.
Photo booth: Maybe you can set aside an area at your reception and have that be the “photo booth”- your photographer can take photos of people in props and costumes and mustaches or something. I’ve seen it done at other events really well- people GET INTO IT. (Side: get the videographer!!)
Veil: Wear one for the walk down the aisle if you want. Then it will be away from your face and you can remove it for the reception….
Try to do one thing at a time so it doesn’t get stressful, and enjoy every moment- it will be over far too quickly! xxx
Do whatever you want with the veil. I didn’t want to wear one. My mom sort if made me (and she made me a small one). But to thus day I still wish I didn’t wear one, just not me. It’s your choice. You care about it more than anyone else.
Skip the photo booth. The day is not about the booth.IIt’s about being with your favorite people on the best day ever. Not worth the anxiety over going over budget. This is an add on, not an essential, two seconds after the ceremony, you won’t care. Always feel free to call if you want to talk through anything.
The wonderful thing about a wedding is that it is about you and your beloved, and what the two of you want. A good friend of mine DIY’ed her photo booth and set a camera in front of it for people to take pictures. Another idea is to use instagram (if you think a bunch of your friends or family will be using smartphones)- create a hashtag special to your event and have friends and family post the pictures they take in the booth using that hashtag. Way cheaper than hiring a photo booth.
I personally think veils can be classy- there are so many to choose from, you can find one that suits the look you’re going for. My sister was gorgeous in her vintage-y cage veil (which she DIY’s with some beautiful flowers).
Just think about how you want to feel on your wedding day, and make all of your decisions accordingly. You can’t go wrong if you stay true to yourself and your relationship.
I have no doubt it will be a gorgeous day no matter what you’re wearing, no matter if you say the exact right words or if you are able to have a photo booth. You’re a glowing wonderful person from what I can tell by following your blog so how could your day not be amazing? Two people in love getting married with a whole bunch of people they adore around them = recipe for a magical day.
Don’t forget to breathe!
Give me seven words to describe what you want to say, and what you now feel and I will write something for you to match your genuine heart!
You might not be nervous walking “down the aisle” because it is a short walk. Your father, or whoever accompanies you, will be beaming and reassuring. I gained at least 10 pounds and my dress still fit and nobody cared, not even me. I never thought of a veil because I spent too many years in Hawaii, where live flowers dominate the choices. Since I didn’t live in the islands when I married, I had a crown of live cymbidium orchids (orchid haku head lei) custom made and overnighted to San Diego on the eve of the wedding day.
Just this past year I was looking at exotic and unusual weddings and saw a bride in a dress with the bodice made entirely of just-picked, sewn-together flowers. Adorned in real flowers photographed in the rainforest, the bride was gorgeous, at once hip and at the same time organic, elegant and classic. Frankly, she looked like a tropical queen, like a modern Cleopatra. All that work! I am also a big fan of RockNRoll Bride, and Trash the Dress. Couples are beautifully and unbelievably creative with their weddings because anything goes these days and that’s the way it should be.
We made our own photo booth and the results were great. Everyone said it was one of their favorite parts of our wedding!
Wedding vows can definitely create anxiety. My husband and I didn’t write our own (ironically we are both English majors) because we didn’t want to be extra stressed out on that day. We also liked the more traditional vows because, for us, we wanted to spend some time really considering what they meant. The best advice I can give you for writing your own (the same advice I gave my best friend who is getting married in three weeks) would be to just be yourself. Easier said than done. What I mean is to forget that other people are in the room – tell Brian your promises as if you two were alone; however, realize that those promises are ones that you’re making before a group of people that will be holding you accountable. Don’t make promises that are unrealistic and that you cannot keep. Be realistic. If you’re romantic, if you’re funny, if you’re open to being completely honest – then do it! Don’t over-think it. Just take some time, sit by yourself (or even across from him while not speaking to one another?) and write them out 🙂
No matter what you choose to say (or how it comes out for that matter) Brian knows how much you love him – you wouldn’t have said ‘yes’ if you didn’t 🙂 Just enjoy the sweet moment (and breathe – that was something I didn’t do enough on my wedding day!)
Of course women still wear veils (I am obsessed by the one Kate Middleton wore in her wedding two years ago)! My friend who got married last September wore a cathedral veil. I think it’s become more common to forgo the veil but plenty of women still choose to wear one (I have seen enough episodes of Say Yes to the Dress on TLC to say this with certainty).
I just went wedding dress shopping a few weeks ago with a friend who is getting married this December (I am one of the bridesmaids) and she decided she didn’t want a veil, even though she tried one on and it looked great on her.
So if you want one, you should wear one. 😀
This entry brings back memories! Haha.
I didn’t wear a veil, but every time I see pics of friends that chose to get a veil for their wedding, I find myself jealous. The right veil with the right dress… so beautiful! And I’ve seen some really creative camera work with them, too.
Good luck!