Chantal walked into my life when I was twenty. I was dating a man at the time who was friends with Chantal’s then husband. Did you follow that? Anyway in walks this opinionated, fun, fiery, beautiful Dominican woman to a dinner party one night and we immediately hit it off, becoming fast friends. I can safely say that I got into more trouble with Chantal in my 20’s than anyone else. We were both a bit wild in those days. HA. But I wouldn’t trade those memories for anything and like all lasting relationships do, we’ve stayed close through the changes the last ten years have brought. We’ve held each other’s hand through break-ups, divorce, moves, triumphs, failures, marriage, babies (she has THE cutest little boy named Sebastian) and everything in between. I adore this woman and I thank the Universe for bringing her into my world. She’s always made me feel understood and some days that’s all you need, you know?
I love her more than words can say.
Enjoy her insightful answers to the “Project 30” questions. I fell in love with this line “Yet I now find solace and comfort in the result of what is, and not what isn’t.” Amazing
What would your 30 something self tell your 20 something self if you could?
It would tell her, not to take life so seriously. To relax, and perhaps take life with a little more ease. To love herself first, and more. It seemed as though when I was in my 20’s I was more concerned with the exterior of things, or of life itself, how at the time it was supposed to look , or be. I was more concerned with what people wanted of me, thought of me, what I should do, or be. I did not have enough faith in my inner self, my inner voice, and what I thought was best for me. Through time I realized that my exterior, the things of life, career, nor success would define what I was to become. Nor who I am.
What do you wish you took more seriously in your 20’s?
The concern and advice of my parents, and elders. In my 20’s I felt like a young adult that was beating to her own drum, perhaps neglecting their advice and maybe learning the rules of life the hard way.
What do you wish you took less seriously in your 20’s?
My studies. I should have dropped my books, and just traveled the world. Maybe taken a few years off to travel the globe, in search of nothing, and everything.
Favorite memory from your 20’s?
When I got the opportunity to go on a sailing trip for 2 weeks through the British Virgin Islands with a group of friends. One memory that sticks out is the afternoon I was sitting alone, on the deck of the sailboat, basking in the afternoon sun, on this beautiful day, with my headphones on, listening to Sade, and staring into the vast, serene, and endless ocean that was in front of me. Not a worry in the world, I was just happy right where I was.
I thought I would be working for the United Nations, or some other foreign government as a Foreign Service Officer, or working in a field that dealt with the economic development of 3rd world countries. I was a dreamer for sure. I thought I would be living in NY, or off in some foreign country.
And where were you by 30? What did your life look like?
By 30’ I was at peace, and felt balanced. I was neither working for the UN, nor living overseas. After leaving my 20’s behind, I had finally found me, with a few years of soul searching, some inner and outer work, plus a heavy dose of nurturing, I was able to patch up a few of the wounds, and walk into my 30’s at peace with the world, and what was in front of me.
Were you ever worried that it wouldn’t all fall into place?
I think its human nature to worry that what we want, wish for or yearn for, will not fall into place. So yes, I worried. Yet I now find solace and comfort in the result of what is, and not what isn’t.
What is the greatest gift about being a woman in your 30’s?
Being happy with who I am now. Finding love again, and the right partner for me, to share my life with, to grow old with. Becoming a mother, and having the privilege and gift to raise our son.
When you look out into the horizon. What do you hope your life looks like at 40?
I hope at 40 my life continues to evolve, grow, and manifest what ever I set my heart out to achieve.
What’s a quote/ saying you try to live your life by?
There is a line in William Ernest Henley’s poem Evictus, which resonates with me, and I try to live my life by, it reads, “I am the captain of my fate, I am the master of my soul.” I think that’s it in a nutshell.