Pamela to Kate

7 Jul

Dearest Kate,

As Thoreau is quoted in your 365 Till 30 Blog, you went “confidently in the direction of your dreams” and “live the life you imagined.“ You took ownership of your goals. You saw them clearly.  You defined them.  Executed them. Loved the process and worked with passion  – the most powerful force of all! Even when you stumbled, you didn’t fall.  You looked around with one of those “What the hell looks,” focused and started up again.  And then some amazing things started to happen.

Last July you wrote:  “Being that I am 365 days away from 30 I have been obsessed with where I am supposed to be by 30 and what I should have accomplished by 30. What things to cross off my bucket list by 30. The problem is thinking these thoughts, has led me to compare myself to every other human being ages 29-31. Strongest focus on females living in L.A. aged 29.. .”  By March 18, 2012 you were quoting President Theodore Roosevelt: “Comparing is the thief of joy.” You learn quickly!

There have been  so many memorable, humorous examples of your abounding quest to learn and experience.  The insights of your witty adventures could fill a book which we all know you’re writing.  An extraordinary book it will be too!

I loved your U.S. Road Trip and your favorite quote, “Not all those who wander are lost.”  J. R. R. Tolkien. – and the lessons from the Tango.  “Life is too damn short to be filling my day with stuff that isn’t enjoyable. . .I HATE THE TANGO!!!. . .  How nice to allow myself the freedom to hate something!”  Kate, how many of us still have to learn that lesson again and again, and you did it with such style before 30!

A few weeks ago as your birthday approached, you wrote: “I was falling asleep the other night I had this overwhelming sense of gratitude for everything in my life . . . Brian, family, health …friends…creativity. It was truly overwhelming. It centered me and I realized if I attained none of my goals this year I would still be lucky.”

Kate, you achieved so much more than the goals you wrote a year ago. Always super loving and giving, you finally took time in this year to give to yourself that which you give to others. I’ve summarized a few “wants” from your 165th Day till 30:  THE KIND OF WOMAN I WANT TO BE.  “I want to live a balanced life, never feel an anxious flutter again, be the kind of friend who honors commitments.  I want to be the kind of partner that always makes her lover feel appreciated, loved, respected and held. I want to laugh loud and often.  I want to live a bold and fearless life.  I want to count my blessings and be thankful.” You are that woman you described.  On this, your 30th Birthday, you have soared to new heights.

The Universe has spoken. “There are only two types of dreams, Kate. Those that have come true. And those that are coming true.”

Your talent, passion, spirit, heart and curiosity have guided you on the path to your dreams.  It’s been beautiful to watch.  Thank you for sharing your heart.  It’s been a hell of a ride.

I’m so proud of you, my love.

Happy 30th Birthday, Kate




2 Responses to “Pamela to Kate”

  1. M. M July 8, 2012 at 9:29 am #

    How beautiful!

  2. J.Martin July 9, 2012 at 9:06 am #


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