1 Mar

This post may make some of you think I am even crazier than you already thought, but I just can’t help myself…I want to share! So if you hate my vision board posts..turn around now!

A few years ago, during a session, Maggi had me do an exercise and it changed things for me- it changed the way I thought about myself and my future. At the time, I was going through some majorly un-fun transitions in my life. I had recently broken up with my boyfriend, moved and my job felt like it was on shaky ground- I was having trouble seeing my future clearly. I wasn’t sure what I wanted from life anymore. Hearing all of this, Maggi proposed we do a future self visualization exercise. “A what?”, I asked. I wouldn’t say I was in the best head space at the time and I remember thinking that it sounded terribly silly, very strange and that I was definitely going to do it wrong. Even worse, if I did it right…what if I didn’t like what I saw? But I make it a habit of being open to what Maggi proposes so off I went into future visualization exercises…

…and a funny thing happened…

I saw, quite clearly, my future self. She is the sum of who I’m becoming and guess what…I really liked her.

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 I saw my future self in a big beautiful kitchen. it was modern but homey. there was lots of wood and a big bouquet of white flowers. I was wrapped in a cozy oversized beige sweater drinking hot tea and listening to the sound of a light drizzle hit the windows. I felt calm, peaceful, full-filled, accomplished and happy. like I could protect myself and others. I felt full of life. I felt like mother earth. I glanced at the fridge and saw my kids’ drawings hanging loosely on it. bright colors. and I smiled. at that moment the clouds broke and light poured in the windows and onto the hardwood floors. I picked up my tea and walked barefoot through my kitchen and over to the window. I peered out onto the big green yard. watched the trees sway in the wind. thought about making a fire while i worked and did some writing. I turned and walked toward my office and through the living room. on my way I passed a wall of photos. photos of my family. my husband. my travels. my work. my accomplishments. the life I built. the company I built. I couldn’t help but smile. I wasn’t afraid of a thing…and there was nothing more I wanted other than another cup of tea.
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I haven’t thought about that specific vision in a long time but when I do it brings me a sense of calm. This week Maggi and I were having a session and I was talking about a question/issue I was having and she asked me what my future self would do. It was exactly what I needed to do because when faced with a tough choice, I’ll check in with my Future Self and know what she’d do. It helps give me perspective on the big picture.
Because, perspective is everything


11 Responses to “129”

  1. Loni.Found.Herself March 1, 2012 at 8:58 am #

    Kate, I absolutely love everything about this post. It sounds like such a wonderful, therapeutic exercise, and you’ve given me a ton of food for thought.

    Also, your future self sounds like an awesome person my future self would be happy to still call a friend. 🙂

    • katemcclafferty March 1, 2012 at 1:39 pm #

      Loni, you would love doing a future self exercise…you should do it! P.S…I am thankful for your friendship now and totally hope our future selves can be friends too:)

  2. Rebecca Koo March 1, 2012 at 9:55 am #

    This is wonderful. Such wisdom and richness as well as beautiful vulnerability. Thank you. This idea of future self is going to rattle in my mind for a while, I can tell.

  3. taline March 1, 2012 at 10:23 am #

    What a lovely thought…sounds like a wonderful ending to a great book. 🙂 Love this post!

    • katemcclafferty March 1, 2012 at 1:40 pm #

      So happy you liked it Taline!! Hmmmmm….that would be a nice ending for a book:)

  4. erin @WELL in L.A. March 1, 2012 at 11:10 am #

    I love how at peace you are with now you and future you. I have a friend who holds art therapy classes where she has people visualize the person they want to be (even if you can’t paint or draw) with colors! A little more abstract, but another fun and creative way to find calm and peace in your present day situation as you build toward the person you wish to become.

    P.S. I’m sending you an email – I’d love a guest post if you have time, beautiful!

    • katemcclafferty March 1, 2012 at 1:44 pm #

      You have to tell me more about that class when I see you!! It sounds like something I would like!
      P.S. I would be delighted to write a guest post for Well In LA:)

  5. fivereflections March 1, 2012 at 12:40 pm #

    step into your future with an open mind and great expectations

    David in Maine USA

  6. timmay March 3, 2012 at 6:44 am #

    I had but one take-away from a 2-day business conference a while back that has since stuck with me: “you don’t have to be sick to get better” (and a very good book BTW). Nice post, and good for you.


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