14 Feb


I have had the hardest time writing Brian’s “People That I Love” post. My feelings for him are so deep, my admiration for him is so strong and our relationship is so important to me that I felt I wouldn’t do it justice. But considering it’s Valentine’s day, I thought it would be the perfect day to try.

Brian is my best friend, my lover, my confidante, my partner in crime and my safe place. I feel like the luckiest woman in the world to have his hand to hold in this life. When I was a little girl I imagined the man I would be with (he was pretty spectacular of course) and Brian surpasses my wildest dreams. He is such a beautiful human being, partner, son, grandson, friend and I know one day he will make a beautiful father. The list of things I admire about him is long. It ranges from the way he treats his mother to how he drives a car. But the thing I admire most about him is his integrity- he is such an honest human being. He truly doesn’t know how to operate another way. He is a perfect balance of calm and steady with passion and fire. I used to think I had to choose one or the other in a partner and now I know I don’t. He inspires me constantly with his creativity. It doesn’t matter if he’s shooting photos or refinishing a frame- he pours his soul into it.

 Our personalities are perfectly matched despite being different in many ways. Unlike me, Brian always puts the cap back on things…balances his check book…makes decisions thoughtfully…actually there isn’t much Brian does without doing it thoughtfully…he’s a planner. I am a tad different. We have a joke that our relationship is like a sail boat. I’m the sailboat in this analogy- I just want to saaaaaiiiill…in every direction and go wherever the wind takes me! Brian is my keel. Many people don’t know that a sail boat needs its keel- the keel is a long, slim plank at the bottom of the hull that provides an underwater balancing force. It keeps the boat from tipping over and without a keel the sail boat would never sail.

He calls me lover. I call him Bri. There isn’t a day that goes by that I question his love for me or mine for him.


“Love doesn’t need reason. It speaks from the irrational wisdom of the heart.”

Deepak Chopra

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16 Responses to “145”

  1. barbarapotter February 14, 2012 at 8:45 am #

    One of the most beautiful things I have ever read

    • katemcclafferty February 14, 2012 at 9:29 am #

      Awww that is so sweet of you to say Barbara. Happy Valentines Day:)

  2. bhg February 14, 2012 at 8:49 am #

    that was beautiful. I love you.

  3. Allyson February 14, 2012 at 9:11 am #

    Very beautiful and inspiring. I just discovered your site a few weeks ago, and I look forward to it everyday. As a newly single 29 year old woman, your spirit and determination has helped to give me a renewed sense of energy and purpose! Thank you for sharing your journey and love!!

    • katemcclafferty February 14, 2012 at 9:30 am #

      Allyson thank you SO very much for your comment. You give me inspiration to keep going! I am delighted to have you as a reader. Thank you for sharing the love!!

  4. itsakoolife February 14, 2012 at 9:59 am #

    So great. So comforting. And beautiful (as everyone has said). Love that he is your safe place. This gives me hope in the world. Thank you. And thank Brian.

    • katemcclafferty February 14, 2012 at 10:00 am #

      Your comments ALWAYS put a smile on my face. Happy Valentines Day:)

  5. Pamela February 14, 2012 at 11:20 am #

    Beautiful. Yours is a reminder of the essence of it all. xoxo

  6. erin @WELL in L.A. February 14, 2012 at 12:17 pm #

    Happy Valentine’s Day to you and your man! (the mysterious “bhg” comment ;)?!?) xo!

    • katemcclafferty February 14, 2012 at 5:32 pm #

      Ha Erin you are on to BHG! Happy Valentines Day to you and your man! xo!

  7. Danielle February 14, 2012 at 1:29 pm #

    Gosh, Kate. This is just beautiful. I know I’m not in any position to judge… but you nailed this “People that I Love” post. I only hope to be able to write the same about one special guy one day :). Happy Valentine’s Day to you both!

    • katemcclafferty February 14, 2012 at 5:31 pm #

      What a lovely comment Danielle!! So very sweet of you. Happy Valentines Day!!!!

  8. Chantal February 15, 2012 at 8:52 pm #

    What a beautiful writing, and particularly the metaphor you used to descrive “Bri.” It is sweet, thoughtful, and filled with, yes precisely, love…. You are blessed to have each other…
    Happy Valentines Day

  9. Mike Martinez March 13, 2012 at 8:24 am #

    You totally did him and your relationship justice. How sweet on Valentine’s Day. He’s a hottie too! 🙂


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