17 Oct


I had no idea Tango lessons were going to be like therapy sessions for me, minus the couch. I assumed it was just going to be a fun, sexy and challenging way to get a work out in. Not to mention a fun party trick! I was wrong.

When my friend Ali first heard I was going to learn how to Tango she sent me this quote…

“Those who embark on the quest to Tango must be willing to give up the illusion of control and the attachment to perfection”

Clearly my friend Ali thinks I have a need to control and a desire for perfection…I am going to have to agree with her. I don’t think I am the typical “controlling” person you may be imaging (At least I hope not!). I NEVER want to control other people. Instead, I want to control situations, life and most importantly myself. I even suffered from bad anxiety attacks at one point in my life and I think it had something to do with my desire to control. I’m always trying to anticipate what is going to happen next so I can prepare. Trust me, I am aware how insane this behavior is!

When you dance the tango you have no control. Well the men have some control but us ladies have none. As a female tango dancer you never know what is going to happen next because you have no idea where the hell your male partner is going to lead you! Crazy huh? Everything is constantly changing and flowing (such as life). You just have to trust, feel and connect. It’s actually a beautiful metaphor for life.

I of course was having a hard time wrapping my head around this concept at first. I kept asking Vladimir, “So I NEVER know where you are going to take me?”  “How then will I know where to move my feet?” “I’m confused” Thankfully Vladi happens to be the sweetest man in the world not to mention incredibly patient man. Seriously he’s a gem. He would smile and answer my questions happily. Luckily, I think he found my desire to take control and lead him funny. At one point, he glanced over to Brian (who was in the room taking pictures) and said “This is going to be hard for her huh?” to which Brian replied “Yes, it’s totally against her nature”

After about 20 minutes I did loosen up a bit and started to really enjoy it. I had so much fun. It was so freeing. It was like a moving meditation and better than any therapy I have tried. Vladimir also happens to be way more fun then my last therapist.

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One Response to “264”


  1. 200 « - December 20, 2011

    […] passed? Unreal.  On a whole other note I have another Tango lesson tonight! Vladi and I meet again! I’m excited to put my tango shoes back on. I have really got to step up my game though […]

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